To start off, i’m 23F, I have a 5mo and am currently 13w pregnant. Today I was talking to my mother about my upcoming procedure, I have really big kidney stones that need surgery, but it is too risky for the baby, so I have to have a stent placed to drain my kidney while I wait to give birth. My mom decided to let the rest of my family know, which inherently is fine. The only people I didn’t want to know were my biological father and my stepmother, since she tends to run her mouth and spew lies and drama about me. After my mom told my other sister, let’s call her Nancy; Nancy decided she would be messy and tell the only two people I requested not know. Though I’m not surprised considering when I got engaged, she also told them the news before I could, so it’s kinda on-par with her past behavior. Anyhoo, immediately after Nancy tells them, my stepmom, let’s call her Jean, telephones my mother to try and gossip about me. She goes on to complain about how her and my father are always sending my fiancé and I money, how they sent us 1,000 and then another 1,300 in addition to other money. After she complains about that and how we are ungrateful and she was under the impression I got my kidney stones taken care of, starts to talk about how we are always “asking them for money”. And continues on to talk crap about how i ignore my father’s texts and act like I don’t love them or want to be apart of their life. My mom didn’t fill me in on everything she said since she could tell I was upset, but gave me the gist of it. With all that being said, what she was saying were blatant lies and I have the bank statements to prove it. While we were out for a family members birthday party, my fiancé and I sat with Jean and my father, catching them up on our life. We had found a new apartment (since we needed a bigger space for the kids) but we ended up getting screwed with our last one and were going to have to pay double rent, PLUS for those who forgot, we lost our insurance so I was struggling with the pain from my kidney stones and couldn’t get seen since the out of pocket costs were so high. BUT we never asked for money, we were sharing our situation and I had faith in my man that we would figure it out like we always do. My father, seeing that we were struggling, didn’t want me to have to wait to be seen or have to worry about double rent so he offered us 1,000, weeks went back and forth but eventually accepted. (we also tried to say multiple times we will pay him back but he refused) It was at this point where Jean started getting an attitude and said “we can’t always help y’all” “y’all need to figure out a plan y’all’s selves” and “i’m tired of always having to help y’all”. Mind you, the only time before this where we ACTUALLY asked for help, was for a new tire for my fiancés bike. Anyway, we got the money, i got seen and got a CT scan, and we were able to get our new place. The scan showed a very enlarged kidney and stones up to 1.2cm. But because the out of pocket cost was so much, all we could afford was the scan, until we were able to get insurance again. And you already know I was NOT about to ask for any money from anyone, especially when they want to talk down on us. The next thing she lied about, was saying I act like I don’t love them or want them in my life and I’m always ignoring my father…mind you she’s the one who acts that way, not me. So fast forward to present day, we got insurance back in Feb so i’m finally able to be seen. If you remember from the beginning, I am 13w pregnant which means I can’t have the kidney stone surgery yet and I’m having to have a stent placed this coming Tuesday. After I got off the phone with my mom after her phone call with Jean, I decide I’m tired of the disrespect and the blatant lies. (She’s been lying about me and talking crap since I was a kid) So I called her out in the group chat we had with my father, saying I don’t appreciate her lies about me or the negative things she’s been saying about me behind my back. That I love them and care about them, and I’d appreciate it if we could be mature about this and if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say it. And of course brought up what specifically she lied about and I refuted it and offered screenshots of the bank statements just in case she was confusing me with another sibling. To which she responded with a nasty fucking attitude and called me a liar, so I stopped being cordial and got nasty too. First I sent the SS of the statements showing all money i’ve ever been sent from him, then I told her i’m disappointed in how she’s acting at her big age, and it’s extremely immature. After I said my 2 cents, I got a call from my father, let’s call him Dick. So Dick calls me SCREAMING at me through the phone, so loud mind you, that my 5mo hears and starts getting scared and crying too. Saying I’m disrespectful and If I have a problem with Jean I need to talk to him, and saying I’m being childish. Wouldn’t even let me get a word in, and I wasn’t going to tolerate him screaming at me after years of dealing with his anger issues and Jeans passive aggressiveness towards me so I hung up right in his face. I sent one final text to the group chat, saying “If standing up for myself is “childish” then by all means I’ll be childish. don’t call me. don’t text me. I don’t want to hear from you” or something along those lines. They’ve since been blocked on everything. All they responded with was “Bye”. I’m just so tired. All she’s done my whole life is be disrespectful towards me and the one time I don’t tolerate it, and try to have a conversation, IM the one in the wrong. Maybe I didn’t go about it perfect, but I sure as hell didn’t start it. Being in mine and my children’s life, whether you’re family or not, IS A PRIVILEGE!!! NOT A RIGHT!!! He’s been a pretty absent father most of my life due to Jean and how she hates all his kids anyhow, so I don’t think i’m missing out on anything. And hell if i’m going to let my babies see mommy get pushed around and bullies and not do shit about it! If there’s one thing i’m not, it’s a liar, and I will NOT be made out to be something I’m not. Which one last thing, I find is so funny, that Dick drilled into us as kids is that he HATES liars, he will legitimately go ballistic if someone lies to him…how ironic is it that he married one? (-_-)/ So AITA?