📝 AITAH for cancelling our date because she was 15 minutes late?

By Express_Dog_4442 • Score: 1093 • April 22, 2025 7:31 PM


I connected with someone on a dating app, and after a while of texting we agreed to a restaurant date as our first time meeting in real life.

To clarify: In my profile i have listed people not being on time as my biggest red flag, In our chat I talked about how punctuality is a really important virtue to me, and when we planned the date I specifically told her to text me should something come up or If there are any delays.

Come the time and day of the date and she isnt there. I wait and check my phone and she hadnt texted me anything. She finally arrives 15 minutes late. She greets me but doesnt even apologize for being late. I ask her why she was late. She shrugs and says that taking ready just took longer than expected. I ask her If when she drove here she already knew she wouldnt make it in time. She says yes. I ask her why she didnt text me. She said she didnt because she was only "a little late", and started looking visibly annnoyed.

At that point I excused myself, said our values dont align and left her there.

She proceeded to shout after me and blew up my phone before I unmatched her when I got home.

AITA? I just have absolutely zero tolerance for not being on time without good reason, especially when you dont even communicate it properly or arent even sorry about it, and I know my standards are harsh but I feel like I was very open about it and gave plenty of warnings.

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