Hi so I(21F) have had my long time best friend of 14 years now she’s (22F) . We grew up in the same city/ area and had the same interests growing up as girls. We’ve never had any fights between us and always supported eachother in all levels of our growing up. So fast forward to January 2023, my best friend got into this relationship with this man (30M) and I was so happy for her.

Their relationship was going on well. He seemed sweet, kind, respectful . This man was working in a different city from where we live & he would go away 3 weeks & he’d be back in the last week of each month to visit . They’d always plan exciting dinner dates and do fun activities together. My bestie was so much in love with this man & I always made sure I never third wheeled.

So fast forward to March 2025. He left for work as usual & after 3 weeks, he didn’t come back this time. My best friend was worried & sad. I told her it’s not a big deal but he literally stopped calling & his replies were so cold. On the weekend of the second week of April, I was out at a restaurant with my best friend & this man calls, she was so excited and asked him what’s wrong? She explained she was so mad at him & he got her worried. He told her to calm down everything’s okay and he said he has a big confession to make . My friend was all ears and this man went on to apologize crying and saying that he is a Married man and has 2 full kids with his wife. That the city he said he works from, that’s where his family is.

My friend was shattered, she started sobbing hard asking him if it’s some sort of joke. It wasn’t. He said his wife found out about my best friend and that he lied to her that she’s just a FRIEND. He said he doesn’t want to loose his marriage as his family knows about it & asked my best friend to play along & tell the wife that she is indeed just a friend. My best friend truly loved this man & his out here telling her to play along that’s she’s a friend. I told her not to accept it , he is a cheater and a LIAR.

… I convinced her not to do it & I decided to use our 14 years of friendship against it. I said if she doesn’t tell the woman the truth that her husband has been cheating, she should forget about our friendship. So she said I’m like a sister she cannot loose me, but was so mad at me that I put our friendship at such a test. When the wife called in to ask the connection between my best friend & her husband, my friend admitted that they were truly dating & that he’s been visiting every last week of the month & sleeping with her too ! The wife was furious , she turned down the call in bitter anger & few days later the now “ex- boyfriend “ called saying my best friend is the reason behind his wife filing for divorce.

Now my best friend is not talking to me anymore, she says I put our friendship at such a test & I’m the reason behind the divorce too because I forced her to do it. So AITAH for causing their divorce & my best friend a heart break ? I didn’t want to support a cheating man !

AITAH ???