My wife (32F) and I (35M) have been together for 11 years married for 9. This is a throw away for obvious reasons people know us and don't need this kind of personal info on my wife.

When we met she told me about her epilepsy which is mostly controlled. However she consistently has seizures when we have sex. Basically once she Os she starts coming down from the high and her brain short circuits ( best description I've got on why) the only other time she has seizures since she got her meds is when she gets injured ( one of our kids (3 at the time) accidentally broke her nose and she had her worst seizure to date)

Her after sex seizures usually aren't that bad. They are usually staring seizures and as long as she doesn't stop breathing she will be fine. I usually keep an eye on her to make sure it doesn't go into a grand mal and I usually make sure she can't get hurt if it does. Some of them last a while and I have emergency meds in case they get too bad. I've only had to use the emergency meds twice.

Anyway we had sex over the weekend. After the sex she didn't look like she was going to go into a bad one so I walked into our bathroom and grabbed a rag to clean myself and her up. I was gone maybe 2 minutes if that. She ended up going into a grand mal and fell off the bed, she has really bad carpet burn from it and she gashed just above her eye on the night stand, she also fractured her arm. She wasn't even out of it yet and I panicked and grabbed her placed her back on the bed and started timing. The gash was bleeding a lot and I yelled for the kids to get in the car and basically just buckled her up as best I could in the car, grabbed our kids, and rushed to the ER. She was already starting to come to but the gash was still bleeding a lot. She ended up having to have several stitches and an arm cast.

She isn't mad at me even though I feel absolutely terrible about it. However she has had several people ask her what happened ( she didn't mention the sex part just that she had a seizure) and her parents are pissed that I let her get hurt that badly.

Honestly I felt so bad I spent the night crying and throwing up. I haven't been able to have sex with her again since then because I'm still upset about it. She has told me it wasn't my fault and once out of 11 years her getting hurt from a seizure is pretty good.

I still feel terrible and I need someone to tell me that isn't my wife if I am indeed a terrible person.