My fiancé 24M and I 22F live together and work a the same job. We work at a senior memory care facility. I am technically his direct supervisor (we got together before the job and have been together for 2 years)

Due to a recent scheduling change, he and I had no overlapping days off. I was saddened by this as I love spending time with him. I’m currently struggling with endometrial cancer and I often feel very sore and tired, and spending time with him and our dog is one of the only things I still enjoy. I discussed this with our main boss, and she was very nice and able to shift schedules around so that we have 1 overlapping day off each week. I was incredibly happy about this. I then saw that this meant that he would be working 6 days on, followed by 2 days off. It was just for this 1 week and then he would be back to a 5 2. I instantly became nervous because he doesn’t like this job and this is the type of thing I would expect him to have a very negative reaction to.

I was correct. When he woke up I waited a bit and then told him, and he was instantly livid. He kept saying that he should have been consulted, he was yelling at me, he kept shouting “6 Fing DAYS!!!” And saying how this is why he hates women, and that he’s tired of everyone at work being lazy b*tches while he is the only one getting F’ed over. I could barely speak and just held our dog and kept trying to say that I thought he would want the day off together, and that it was the only way for that to happen. He said he would rather of not had any days off together if it meant not having to work 6 days straight. He said he hates just “being inside talking to me, doing nothing.” I said how I just wanted to spend quality time with him. He said we see each other every day and that’s enough. He also said that he tried to spend quality time with me earlier today (asked me to have sex) and I refused (I am having a pain flare up and I don’t feel like I could).

I felt crushed. I feel like he doesn’t like me as much as I like him, and that he resents me for my illness. I told him that I would try my best to fix the situation at work even if it meant taking 1 of his shifts myself, but that I was very hurt and that tomorrow we needed to have a serious talk. He immediately started crying and said that he is just so tired, and said that I always make myself the victim. This entire situation was making me feel sick. I shut myself in our guest room but he said he wanted to kill himself and that if I didn’t come out he would hurt himself.

We are now sitting in the living room in absolute silence. I feel emotionally numb and overall I just feel different about things in an ambiguous sort of way. AITA? Is there anything you could recommend for me to fix this? I’m at a total loss here.