To start with I’d just like to apologise for any language. The story I’m going to tell was very traumatic and I am still shaking so bear with me.

I (26M) have been worrying about telling my girlfriend (23F) that I’ve been cheating on her for the past 3 months with a coworker. I understand this is shitty and I greatly regret it, but I’ve not been in a good place mentally recently.

I finally decided that today would be the day I sit her down and tell her. So I sit her down, I am already starting to cry at this point, and I begin to explain. Before I can even tell her properly what and why she has started screaming at me. I don’t deal with confrontation well so this made me cry more.

As I am shaking trying to get my words out she goes to walk out screaming at me that I am disgusting and she hates me. (I need to point out here that she previously cheated on me at the start of our relationship with my cousin (18M)) I said you can’t hate me I forgave you for what she did.

I shouldn’t have said this, she stopped dead and went silent. I said I’m sorry, she said she told me to never bring it up again. I again apologised and said I know can we just talk please.

She then said “why don’t we f*cking talk about this” walked over to Spoonie my beautiful little cat, grabbed him by his back legs and swung him round and round like a furry hammerthrow.

I ran towards her now and tried to grab her but she released him and he flew across the room at a scary pace (I half expected to see him splat when he hit the wall)

I screamed at her to get out and she screamed in my face that it was my fault and I should apologise.

Is this my fault?

Spoonie seems okay but he’s not meowing like he used to