So, I (25F) have been best friends with my best friend (25F) since we were kids. We've been through a lot together, and I love her like a sister. But over the last couple of years, I’ve noticed that she lies, a lot. Sometimes it’s small things, like saying she’s busy when she just doesn’t want to hang out. Other times it’s bigger, like claiming she’s accomplished something at work or making up stories about people hitting on her or dramatic things happening that never did.

At first, I brushed it off thinking maybe she was just insecure or trying to impress people. But it’s gotten to the point where I don’t trust half the things she says. I've caught her in lies and gently called her out a few times, but she either laughs it off or acts offended.

Last week, she told a lie in front of a group of our mutual friends something that could’ve affected how they see me. I pulled her aside afterward and finally told her I was tired of all the lying. I said it’s hard to be close to someone I can’t trust, and that I’d rather she be honest even if the truth is boring or unflattering.

She got really defensive and said I was being mean and judgmental, and that everyone lies, so I shouldn't make her feel bad for it. Now she's barely speaking to me, and some mutual friends are saying I should’ve handled it more gently.

So… yeah ... Idk...