A couple months ago I happened to see some messages exchanged between my boyfriend and his mother - she basically said that I dress like a hippy and was being petty & judgmental of me but then playing it off by saying how she supports the relationship and thinks I’m a nice girl.

In the heat of the moment I went outside to collect myself but she followed me outside and asked why I was upset, so I told her what I had seen. I told her that the messages were hurtful because A) I do not dress inappropriately B) I gained weight over the last year and struggle to feel comfortable or confident in anything I own C) I am not financially able to get a brand new wardrobe ATM

Her response wasn’t awful - but it also wasn’t apologetic at all and we have since had another similar conversation where she basically talked AT me for 45minutes while my boyfriend wasn’t home to oversee or mediate. She made it a point to tell me that I was rude during our previous conversation for telling her that I intend to marry her son - she said it came off as if I told her “I’m not going anywhere so deal with it.”

I left feeling hurt, attacked & in tears. I have given it time to process but I can’t shake this feeling of anger and resentment towards her and I dread seeing her when I visit.

I am turning 30 this year and I have wanted to dress more age appropriate for some time - this month I was finally able to purchase $400 worth of new “more mature” clothes. I wanted to do it for me though - not to prove something to her.

TL;DR - boyfriends mom insulted me and I’m bitter towards her now