I (20F) have always had issues with my mums side of the family since I was about 13/14. All the issues I had I could speak to my mum about but she always said to ‘keep the peace’ and not say anything so I feel like I have so much resentment in me (my dad has had issues with them so I often rant to him but I never did expect him to get involved). Nearly 2 years ago I had a breast reduction surgery as they caused me with chronic back pain and inability to do daily tasks (yes very big) and my mums dad had very strong opinions about me not getting this surgery and made it clear he was not supportive, after knowing how much it affected my life. So after that I really distanced myself, I did reach out to him and explain why I was so upset in a big paragraph and his response was ‘ok’ so that gave me everything I needed to know. Skip forward to about a year ago, the family went on holiday without me, my brother and my parents which really upset us so I made a group chat and basically explained how it upset us but I hope they have a good time and maybe next time they can pick a holiday that includes us (FYI they didn’t) one of my aunties then continued to list all the reasons why my feelings weren’t valid and why they were still going (but in a ‘nice’ way). This upset me for a while but I got over it because she’s my family. Skip forward to a month ago I had an argument with my mum after she’d come home late and woke me up when I had an early shift the next morning, and I was crying because I was upset, we made up and it was all good. I’ve then gone on her phone today as she wanted me to book the cinema and I’ve seen on her messages the same aunt mocking me about me jealous because I have no social life and that im not valid in being upset. This honestly just broke me because I feel like a mug, why do I keep expressing my emotions and feelings and trying to communicate and just getting mocked for it or told I’m wrong. I’m just so fed up of being disappointed and invalidated. So AITAH if I decide to distance myself from these people? It’s so hard because I know I’ll become the villain or be ‘too sensitive’. I’m sorry if this is all over the place just feeling frustrated:/