I never done this before I watch Reddit stories on YouTube and I seen it’s helped a lot of people.

I guess a little information to start would be a good idea.

I am a 23 year old male who is dating a 20 year old Male I guess like call him jasper (not the real name of course)

We been off and on for about 2 years in November. We used to live together as roomates and we began to like eachother but he had a bad addiction. He put me through alot would emotionally abuse me flirt with people right in front of me sometimes throw things at me and pull my fingers when he was mad (not in like a fidgety way just a pull my fingers all the way back to my hand) he admitted he was trying to off himself in front of me knowing I had trauma with that. Our last break was last year 2024 summer when he tried to frame me for selling him some drugs (I have never done drugs in my life) and almost got me kicked out of the place I was living out. I almost sued him but I eventually moved and tried to heal from that.

I went to this party around like 2 months ago that he was at and he sought me out and I was hesitant at first we started talking I wasn’t really interested but blah blah blah we got back together. You know when you love someone it can just blind you.

So here’s the thing that I just can’t get past Recently, he’s been in a tough spot. So I helped him some things to help (I don’t want to go into detail becuase we watch Reddit stories together and I pray he doesn’t find this) but, he was in my house most of the day using my stuff but, couldn’t stay overnight so I provided him his needs. I overheard a phone call with his mom and she asks why did I make him pay me? I sat there while thinking he would explain how much I’ve been doing for him but he just says “I don’t know” so, like I mentioned before this isn’t his first time lying about things. He lied about me selling him drugs and his dad believed him without any proof and also when he was told it wasn’t me. And I lost both of my parents at the age of 11 so, I’m not saying I want to replace my parents but, me dating someone a good connection with the in laws would mean the world to me.

So we are in a disagreement because i feel like ive done way too much for him and his excuse to say “I don’t know” was “I just didn’t feel like there was a point I could explain it to her” when she literally asked “why did he ask you to pay him”

I’m just a little annoyed because he only counts us dating for the last month since we got back together and he is finally sober and acts like the past hasn’t happened or traumatized me. But, it’s like since he’s been sober yes it has gotten a lot better but his patterns are slowly creeping in and I don’t know if I run or if I stay? If that makes any sense.

[also this part isn’t that important but I know that I’m not perfect becuase I’m throwing a party and I’m a perfectionist and he’s went back on his word with helping me pay so I’ve been like scattering around on top of this all trying to figure out what to do. But I love my friends they have decided to help cover it and I just don’t think I can be with someone who claims they understand me but does things like that but also I told him I can’t be fully mad at it because he’s being responsible with his money]

But right now I’m basically contemplating if I should leave or try to work this out. Cause u want this to work out and he said he’s going to try to do better but we’ve been here before So AITA for contemplating breaking up with my bf?