I (M) was at a local grocery store after a tough day of work with my girlfriend (F) (we work together).

As I’m browsing looking for food in the hot sections of the market, an employee behind the counter signals with his hand for me to come over.

After I say “What’s up”, he proceeds to tell me word for word “Not that I was looking or anything but you might want to tell your girlfriend to readjust her pants”

We work a physical job so she is wearing sweatpants, nothing crazy or see through, and honestly extremely thick with an oversized shirt on top of them. I suppose he assumed our relationship based off body language from browsing the store, however his comment made me really pissed off, really quick.

After a short yelling confrontation from my end (In the middle of a semi busy large store) and continued apologies from his end, I reported him to the customer service department and also called the store on my way home, I probably should have done more but I was hot as a frying pan and had to walk away to avoid doing something very regretful. I was cursing like a sailor and spitting molten lava from my mouth, aware of the awed looks from all of the middle aged adults around me.

This market chain is very big specifically in our state, so I may have threatened legal action over the phone, even though I have no clue if that’s a viable option or even worth it. I don’t want to get the guy fired, but in my eyes he may deserve it honestly.

I get he may have been trying to help, but after a full assessment in the parking lot of my girlfriends lower body I could not for the life of me figure what he was referring to, (No blood, CT, or whale tail), and I felt the only reasonable response for something that audacious and personal was exactly what I did. I don’t understand why he was even paying attention to her bottom half, and especially why he felt the need to tell me that her pants weren’t fitting his preference and needed to be fixed.

As I’ve wound down at home for a few hours I’m starting to wonder if I’m the asshole, as his intentions may have been somewhat pure, however the disrespect along with the judgmental nature of his comments is what I still struggle digesting. I understand that it would be textbook SH if he said what he said to my girlfriend directly, but I’m not sure if him telling me is better or just more misogynistic.

Everyone in my life is telling me it was a valid crash out, but I would prefer someone from a third party to tell me if I was in the wrong, and if any barstool lawyers could tell me if this is even worth my time chatting up with a law firm.

My girlfriend wasn’t quite as upset as I was, and really was just shocked at the audacity of his comments, along with trying to figure out what he was talking about. She definitely was self conscious about her clothing the rest of the day, covering both the front and back of her sweatpants, however like I said they were completely normal.

Please tell me Reddit, was my crash out justified or AITAH?