Making a long story short, I(18f) have a sister (15f) who recently got into deep shit w our mom which i won’t get into, it was mostly her getting caught in a lie she told one but told the truth to another, truth got spilled and my mom couldn’t figure out what was real. She’s been punished ever since (i think it’s been over two months?) where she has to turn in her laptop and phone to a desk in the living room where she doesn’t have access to during the night and gets back in the morning.

Onto the real point, I recently got caught smoking weed and basically it came down to me keeping all my stuff and just being told im gonna be taken to monthly drug tests and if i fail i get everything taken away. me and my mom ended the conversation very well and pretty quickly with very minimal damage and will probably move past this soon enough. What the problem is, is that after me and my mom’s conversation ended and she went upstairs, i went into my room to talk to my brother when my little sister walks in. im basically boasting about how i “got away with it” and she makes a jab saying “the favoritism is crazy” referring to the fact that I don’t get my stuff taken away at night and she does. I took it as her joking and said “and i do not give a fuck” when all of a sudden i look at her, she starts getting teary eyed and says “well i do” before leaving my room and going to hers with sounds of sobs coming from her.

While i can understand why she’s upset about the circumstances, i can’t say that this is favoritism per se. The way we handled our respective situations were completely different, with mine having my mom scold me and give me the whole “disappointed in you” talk to me while hers ended with her being screamed at by our mom and two more days following screams. I know my mom seems crazy, trust me i know but that’s not exactly the point of this post lolol. i’m really curious to figure out whether or not this is favoritism? i’m sorry if i left any important info out, but i genuinely want to know if she’s right or not since my sister honestly has a history of narcissistic behaviors and my immediate first thought when she said that was “why is she making this about her” but i might just be overly cruel. so AITAH for telling my sister idgaf? should i tell her sorry? or explain how it isn’t and our situations are completely incomparable?