I (29F) am 4 months pregnant with my and my husband's first baby. We are very happy for our baby and excited to be parents but my pregnancy proved to be more difficult than I expected. The main problem I have is extreme nausea...some smells that I used to like before now make me sick, I can smell evrything around me and the things that make me very very sick are food and body odor.

My husband has a daughter from his previous relationship, Violet (13F) and as per the custody agreement she comes to stay with us every week from Friday after school to Sunday afternoon/evening.

I have nothing against Violet and we used to have a decent relationship but she stinks and it's making it impossible to live in my own home. Her mother is against chemical deodorants so she buys her some natural things that do not cover the sweat smell. And it's not only she that smells, it's also her clothes that have a very nasty smell like sweat and musky and old. It's a very nasty combinatiom and it's making me puke every time I am near her. We tried finding solutions but with no results. Violet refuses to wear the clothes that are in our house (and that are clean and fresh). Inatead she comes from her mother's place with a set of clothes and pijamas, wears them while she is here and takes them back to her mother's each Sunday. We asked her to allow us to wash her clothes when she comes in on Friday, she always refuses saying her clothes are clean. Yeah, so clean that she stinks. Her mother refuseses to cooperate on this as well. She refuses to convince Violet to allow us to wash her clothes because we don't use natural products and claims her daughter does not smell.

It became an entire nightnare for me to live in my own house while she is here. I tried, I really tried different aproaches but they always fail. During lunch or dinner I tried staying as far away from her as possible but I can still smell her which results in me not being able to eat and very often puking my guts out. When she is here, I fill the house with a lot of scented candles and wear a lot on perfume on my self in order to have other predominant smell. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't but it's not healthy for me to live in a house filled with smoke and perfume.

As I said, after trying multiple solutions and discussing with the mother who refuses to cooperate with us, my husband got tired of seeing me sick and told Violet and her mother that she cannot come to our house anymore until I give birth. He explained to them that I need to be able to relax and enjoy being in my own home, which I can't do anymore due to their refusal to be understanding on our situation. Violet's mother sent me a nasty text accusing me of being the reason why my husband is abandoning his daughter. No one is abandoning her, we will start allowing her to come over after I give birth. She said as a woman I should make an effort and make my husband be closer to his kid. In response I sent her the following message: "Well as a woman, you should be able to understand that pregnancy sickness is not something I can control. Also as a woman, you should be focused on your daughter's hygiene and not let her smell like a dumpster". She replied that I have no idea how hard it is to be in her situation and that I am nasty for criticising a fellow mother.