Im 21 and my best friend is 23.

We dont live close by so i see her every 3 months maybe... but we always write. Everyday since 2016 we have at least sent good morning messages etc ... now days though she has this habit of ' not knowing ' how to respond to longer messages i send?

The other week my grandma died to which she responded perfectly normal. Unfortunately another family member had a bad accident a few hours later ... he broke 9 rips and all she replied to that was " damn " ?? I told her " we need to work on your replying skills because damn and that's crazy are WILD responses. " she went on to defend herself. After i replied " dont start your sentences off eith a simple thats crazy. It comes off wild even if your intentions are pure ". She replied with ' okok ' and changed the topic.

Now, a month later, i was explaining the unfortunate and sad plot of a series to her that i really liked and she only responded with ' thats crazy ' to my 10 messages which made me feel really insecure. She did not mean to hurt me or make me feel that way, i know she didnt. So i simply tried to communicate my feelings with her. I wrote :" Whenever u just write "thats crazy" i always think ur saying this in the 😭 most nonchalant uninterested way ever. " to which she basically said " what else do you want me to say "

She has this habit of defending herself quick. So i tried to explain myself again : Im just letting you know that it makes it seem like ur super uninterested in what im saying fkskssk it makes me feel like i shouldnt have written this much😞 " to which she responded that she was interested since she had inital plans to watch the show anyway ( ... making it about herself again? Or am i crazy. Would a ' sorry i didnt mean to make you feel that way ' killed her ? )

I was not satisfied with her answer so i replied " okay but this means you will stop, right " to which i got the sarcastic remark " yes ill stop saying thats crazy " ??? And i explained AGAIN " Thanks for stopping sth that makes me insecure. Like yk its not the phrase just the 2 sentence answer with no emotion that made me feel a little insecure after writing so much text "

It honestly made me really sad to see that my best friend cannot take my feelings seriously. I always try to make her feel seen, loved and understood. I can tell you every single thing she liked and dislikes bc thats so important to me. So her not taking my feelings seriously is making me feel like im about to reach a breaking point. Am i crazy? Am i wrong for saying i dont want dry replies? I dont rush her for replies she can take all day if she wants.

AITAH for communicating my feelings like this? Should i have said it differently? Sorry for the long text.