My (19F) father (46M) was in a severe car accident about 8 years ago that caused him to need his right leg amputated. It was terrifying for us, but after years of therapy (both physical and mental) our family has been able to adjust and heal. My dad now uses a prosthetic leg.

Last month, I was hanging out with my best friend (20F) who I’ve known since elementary school. We met before the accident, and her and her family were there for me during that time, which made what happened that night super bizarre.

We were just eating pizza and chatting in her dorm room when the subject of my ex bf came up. We had just found out he has a new girlfriend, so we were jokingly talking about what I had that she didn’t (stuff like I have a bigger butt, I’m funnier, etc) when my friend said “you came with your own little vegetable”. I didn’t get the joke at first but then it clicked. I said I didn’t think it was funny, but I wasn’t offended since sometimes people make jokes about my dad that go too far without them realizing.

She proceeded to double down on the joke, saying that I was being sensitive and that my dad kind of was a vegetable because he never went back to work after his accident. I was super upset and left immediately. The next morning, I woke up from a text from her asking when I was going to “stop being mad and move on”. That made me feel significantly worse, so I sent her a text telling her what she had said was extremely hurtful and that she was blocked, and that I wanted nothing to do with her.

Since then, I’ve been getting texts from other friends that I was being dramatic and she didn’t mean any harm. Yesterday, I explained to one of my friends why what she said was hurtful, they all said it was just a silly joke and I was acting like a bitch, and I should just forgive and forget. AITAH for cutting her off?

TLDR: My best friend called my amputee dad a vegetable, and I cut her off after she refused to apologize.