For context I (20f) work Monday through Friday at a fast food chain usually on closing shifts which means I leave work at 10:00 pm and my partner (27M) comes in to work at 8:00 am and leaves at 5:30 so we don't see each other much today was our anniversary and I was hoping that for the same reason he would be the first to say hello for our anniversary even if it was a small message on chat and that he would plan something like coming to pick me up which is typical of what we do from time to time during the week, we go home together, talk for a while and sleep when we got home but apparently my partner didn't have the same plan because not only did he not say anything even though we have been in a relationship for 3 years now and I had to ask him if he was going to come for me to which he told me that after work he had an interview and then he would come for me but honestly in my opinion it didn't seem like he really wanted to be with me today because every time he leaves work he usually comes home very tired and it seemed like it wasn't going to be the exception yet. I understand that our schedules are different but the time he uses after work is his decision, he usually trains after working 3 to 5 days a week usually without counting that he has his personal projects because he is a fighter and I understand to a certain extent that he wants to give priority to that but I thought that today would be the exception since it is our anniversary so seeing his basically curt reaction I told him that it felt strange that he came for me because he seemed to come with the same tiredness as always so I preferred that he didn't commit to coming for me if he was very tired, I don't know if I'm the bad one because of the next thing I did but in summary he asked me what I wanted him to do here and I told him that he can decide for himself what he does obviously they were going to feel bad if he didn't come for me but that at least he should be responsible for his own decisions and that his answer should be because he wants to not because I wanted something. To which he began to tell me in a giant paragraph that he was tired and that there isn't much to do about today without sacrificing other things because he can share with me but he has to organize his time and that he doesn't want to tell me that I already have X time to be with you. I told him that I didn't want explanations but that he should simply make a decision and that if he was going to do something, he should organize himself. To which he deviated again telling me that he is organized and that he is trying, I asked him again if he was going to organize himself or not and he told me that he supposed so but that he was busy with other things first, honestly I don't like doubts and if you are going to doubt about something as important as our anniversary it is better not to even tell me if you are going to try because whoever tries really does not want to guarantee anything, when you want to do something personally I believe that you are going to do everything you can when it is something important. He told me that I wasn't supporting him because I was speaking to him in a way that made him do things alone and I told him that I can't decide for him since I'm not one of his parents and he started telling me that I wasn't treating her well, I told him that he was an adult and that he can organize himself and that I don't intend to go after him for something that is supposed to be important to him and if he's not going to do anything I prefer to at least know so I can deal with the frustration individually. He started telling me that it's strange that he can't say the same about me and that I was treating him like a child. I told him that I'm already organized because whether he comes or not, I'll still leave work at 10:00 at night. He told me that he wanted to move but with my attitude he didn't feel like it and that he had already thought of something for when he was going to come get me but when I started talking to him about it his spirits went down and personally I don't believe him because if he really had something planned it wouldn't cost him to at least give me a clue about it and let me know that he was going to come get me with this supposed surprise and he knows that for me the subject of surprises is very difficult because I really don't like it, I prefer that at least if he's going to have something for me he tells me "hey I have something for you" and that way I can clear my mind because if you tell me in the middle of an argument without even being able to name the supposed surprise, really for me it's that you pulled it out of your sleeve and I'm not going to be in the best disposition, Don't get me wrong, I'm aware that there isn't much time for us in our home but changing the routine is not something difficult, it's the small details which makes the routine a little less usual and that I feel is what has been missing the mostHe only excused himself saying that we have to internalize this routine until they offer me a lasting change and he insists that he wants me to internalize it because they can't invent something different every day and he stressed that I complain as if he didn't want to spend time with me and that the last few weekends he has given "priority to me" When in reality we spend half of the weekends at wrestling shows to which he belongs, Honestly that part seemed very ugly to me especially because I had to be behind him on the weekends so that he would want to spend a little more time with me, Well the wrestling shows take up the whole day AND we are in the same place but we don't interact at all and honestly I don't think it is quality time as a couple, Then he was telling me that he hasn't read a single positive thing in this whole conversation and honestly what the f why would he say something positive in the conversation if I'm highlighting a problem? I'm not here to tell him how nice he is and let things go that bother me, I'm here to make him understand something that makes me uncomfortable and deserves attention, and I'm not asking him to use his entire week on me but that it is important and things like that should be paid attention to, he complained that he didn't have time for all of that and that he doesn't have time to play a game and I pointed out that he had time to go train without a problem, that he has his time and he chooses how to handle it, that he shouldn't complain about one thing when he gives priority to another because in the end they are a decision and not an obligation like work. In the end he told me that he wanted his space, that he wanted to cry, that he felt bad, I told him to stay at his parents' house and I blocked his chat. Sorry if I misspelled something this is not my first language!