I 23f have a brother 25m that is in the Canadian Navy. He lives 4,800 km away from me. We were always really close growing up but recently he’s gotten really into “Christianity” and his personality has completely changed. He’s a hardcore “Christian” and has some weird opinions about women and non-white people. Even though his opinions always bothered me, I was willing to overlook it because he’s been through a lot and I thought it was just a phase but… My birthday was last week and my brother FaceTimed me. We were talking about video games and whatever and he accidentally turned his phone to the side a bit. On the wall of his apartment was a swastika flag. Red flag, white circle, black swastika right in the middle. I was too shocked to say anything about it at the time because I never expected anything like that from him. We just kept talking like normal and he didn’t know that I saw it. Honestly I was questioning if I even saw what I thought I saw. About a week later I confided in our mom about it because it was really bothering me. Of course her first reaction was “that’s not true, he’s a good boy, he’s defending our country, he’s in the military” something like that. She didn’t believe me, which I don’t blame her it was hard for me to believe at first too. The next time she FaceTimed him she confronted him about it. He fed her some bs story about how “it’s not what it looks like” he convinced her that it was just a symbol of socialism. And she believed every word he said. Honestly, I was hoping that I was mistaken and I saw the flag wrong. I mean there’s no way that my brother, my best friend, is a nazi right? But he admitted that it was a swastika flag to his own mother and managed to convince her that he only has it because he supports socialism. After I learned that I was right and it really way a swastika flag I started thinking really hard about my relationship with my brother. I decided that I don’t want to associate with him anymore. I decided that it would be best to cut him out of my life. I told my mom about what I’m feeling and her reaction rattled me. She defended him and basically told me that I was being dramatic for considering cutting him out of my life. She told me that it was “just a phase” that he was going through. I told her that dying your hair black is a phase, piercing your face is a phase, being into kpop is a phase. Being a fucking Nazi isn’t a phase. Especially with him being in the military, he can get into a lot of trouble for that if anyone finds out. The military has had a lot of problems with neo nazis among their ranks in the past so they have no tolerance for that kind of thing. He’s risking his whole career for a flag that represents the torture and death of millions of people. I just don’t understand. I’ve been writing out a text to tell him that I don’t want him in my life anymore but my mom has me doubting if this is the right thing to do. Am I really overreacting? I just don’t want to associate with someone that thinks it’s ok to fly a swastika flag. Everyone in my family is sayin that I’m overreacting and that I just need to ignore it. It’s hard to even consider not having my brother in my life anymore but I just think he’s a terrible person for even owning that flag. Am I the asshole?