Title: AITA for thinking about cutting off a friend who didn’t make plans for my 30th birthday?

Hi Reddit, I’m really struggling with a situation involving my friend, and I need some advice.

I’ve known my friend for about 8 years now—since we were both 21 and 22—and she’s one of my closest friends in my city. I’m not really a “birthday person,” but I was still looking forward to my 30th birthday this year, especially since I’ve been feeling like my friendship with her has been a bit one-sided lately.

Here’s the issue: My birthday was in early April, and I invited her to join me and my sister for some plans since my sister was coming into town to celebrate. She didn’t offer to make plans or do anything for my birthday, and when I invited her, she said she wasn’t sure if she could join because of work. I understood, but now she’s taking time off work and planning something for her birthday, which is just a few weeks later.

To make things worse, she did reach out to wish me a happy birthday, but she didn’t ask me to hang out or make any effort to celebrate together, which honestly felt even worse. I ended up crying on my birthday because it felt like she didn’t even think to make an effort for me. I also feel like she’s been neglecting our friendship lately in general—she posts constantly on Instagram and TikTok but can’t seem to ask me how I’m doing or make an effort to reach out. She’s also very opinionated and I feel like I can’t talk to her about personal things, like relationship issues, without getting unsolicited advice to dump my boyfriend.

I’m really torn about this. My boyfriend and my gym friends, who I’ve known for only two years, made me feel more cared for on my birthday than my friend of 8 years did. I feel like I’m constantly putting more into the friendship than she is, and I’m not sure if I should just cut ties. But at the same time, I don’t want to throw away a friendship without at least expressing how I feel.

AITA for even considering cutting her off? Should I have a conversation with her first or just let go?

TL;DR: My friend reached out to wish me a happy birthday but didn’t ask to hang out or celebrate, which felt worse. She’s been neglecting our friendship lately, and I’m considering cutting her off. Should I talk to her about it first or just let go? AITA for thinking this way?