I (26m) have a best friend of 4 years who I met from work (22f). We’ve always been super close! She was there for me when I needed help moving out of my abusive ex boyfriends place, letting me stay with her for a bit. Both of us went through a lot during that time and always leaned on one another. Then I finally met my now Wife who is my absolute world, and the friend got with her (now ex boyfriend) around the same time. Funny coincidence! My wife actually knew him. He was my wife’s ex boyfriends best friend, there was never any hard feelings with each other considering so all was good!!

We all hung out here and there and became friends. Till about 6 months ago when I moved back and stuff started getting weird. (A lot of work drama on top of it she kept trying to start with the owner of where we worked) and issues she was having with her boyfriend. As a best friend my first response will always be to be there and protect her, even if there was times I knew she was in the wrong for things. After months of not being happy I finally convinced her to break it off with her boyfriend since she was pretty checked out of the relationship at this point. She would tell me how he cheated on her and she found that out from a random girl at a bar? Didn’t think much of it so I was heated and angry as well with her.

Well.. some back story. Let’s call him David (my wife’s ex boyfriend of 5 years) is a major Alcoholic. He put my wife through a lot of mental abuse and trauma when they were together. Which my friend knew all the stories about.

So David started helping her with moral support after breaking up with his friend. Helped her move and helped her get a place at his apartment complex. They started talking a lot after this. She would tell me the slight flirting that would happen and how she wanted to have sex with him and if it was okay with me and my wife? In which I told her that’s up to her, but warned her that it would be a terrible decision to date him because of what he’s put my wife through and she agreed and said she would never get in a relationship with him. Time goes by and she barely shows up to work and barely texted me anymore. When I did see her she would just talk about David, and how they’re keeping them sleeping together a secret from her ex boyfriend (his best friend) to which I still kept warning her.

More time passed and she created more problems at work and left. Which resulted in almost ruining my relationship with the owner of the place from the lies she told me. I was almost at my breaking point and was going to talk to her about it till I saw her post a picture on Valentine’s Day of roses, chocolates, and a bear she got from someone ‘special’ and then I KNEW she started dating him was lying to me about that too! So instead of talking to her about things I sent her a long message highlighting how I felt about everything that happened and that we can no longer be friends but I wish her the best of luck. Unfollowed her on everything, while she currently still stalks mine and my wife’s pages. Being the first one to view our stories.

So am I the asshole for cutting off my best friend and not hearing her out when she knowingly got together with my wife’s abusive ex?

Would I be the asshole if I decided to block her on all platforms?

(I hope this makes sense!! I’m terrible at telling stories)