Am I the asshole for what I did after discovering my wife’s affair?

I’m an Army officer, and I thought my marriage was solid until I found out my wife was cheating on me with a senior officer. The betrayal cut deep, and I felt a whirlwind of emotions—anger, heartbreak, and a desire for revenge. Instead of confronting her directly, I decided to take a different approach, one that I thought would be clever and, admittedly, a bit petty.

I replaced the lubricant in her KY Jelly bottle with Crazy Glue. I washed the bottle out really good, got it bone dry, and filled it to the top with the glue, and capped it tightly. I left for deployment, hoping they would get stuck together when they used it, as it turned out, it didn’t work like I thought it would.

A few weeks later, I received a call from my boss, who grilled the shit out of me, saying I could be charged under the UCMJ for it. Apparently they had used the glue, and they both had some painful and possibly long-term injuries from it. I didn’t admit it, and I maintained the wolfhound creed, I lied like hell and made counter accusations. I mean after all, why was under the microscope, and not them?

The image of them in that situation flooded my mind. I couldn’t help but feel a mix of satisfaction and guilt. They were caught in a moment of passion that had turned into a medical emergency, and I was the architect of their misfortune. The story has spread across the Brigade footprint, and I’m getting sideways looks from people I thought were my friends.

Now, I’m left wondering if my actions were justified or if I just made a bad situation worse. I wanted to get back at her for the betrayal, but did I go too far? Am I the asshole for what I did?