I met my best friend as teens. We stayed extremely close. Were both in our 30's now. We re-connected last year, and she was living about 4 hours away. Started talking and hanging out once or twice a week. She would drive up here to visit family and friends regularly. Within abpit 4 months of re-connecting, she moved back home. I was supposed to help, but I had a lot going on at home that weekend. We ended up getting really close, really fast, again. We were hanging out almost daily. Then she met a boy.....and would drive 2 hours daily to see him. Ayer about 3 months of her being home, I helped her get a job with me. She stayed there for a little bit. After about a month there, she left for a different job. I got a lot of crap from her supervisors. And still do. Even though over half of the people hired with her left as well. Her, her boyfriend, my boyfriend and I would go on refular double dates to acquaint the men with each other. After about 3 or so months, I would still text her daily to see what's going on, if we could set up something for us 4, and she would never reply back, this was about Thanksgiving time. Around that time we were planning a friendsmas party and my birthday ( in February). My best friend decided that she was suddenly too busy for anything with me. I sent her a few messages explaining how I feel about being ignored. I said she's hurt my feelings because I felt like she was refusing to do anything with me anymore. My other friends and I planned my birthday down to a t with 3 months advanced notice. She was definitely making more than any of my friends(the ones that were going to the party) and myself. It was only 50 bucks a person for this party. I kept texting her once a week about, and never got any replies. 3 weeks before my party, she said she didn't have any money. She was living with family, not paying rent, or any serious bills to my knowledge. I was told that she had ZERO bills, other than her phone bill. I sent a text to the group chat about reminders to send me their portions so I could pay for the room. She stayed silent, while the rest of us made plans to when I would get the money for the party. I let her go without a private message (I saw this coming). The last week before the party, I sent my last message. I told her I felt that she was all consumed with her boyfriend, and if she would like to go to the party, I need to know today, because the prices per person would be going up if she didn't attend. She responded with "I'm broke i cant". I offered to pay her portion for her so she could celebrate with me. She ignored me until I messaged again. The next time I messaged i asked about someone who i thought was being rude on her social media. I dont think it's appropriate for a family member to laugh at a "I'm in love" post. She explained, that's just the way that dude is, and i said well i think it's rude and disrespectful to your relationship. And she got upset with me, so i said "k", i had a lot going on at the time and didn't have time to fully respond. Then she snapped and asked why am I upset because it doesn't affect me. I explained that I'm not fighting with her anymore, we clearly have different opinions about things. I explained that I didn't feel like I was important to her anymore and she never really talked to me unless she wanted a favor from me. (Which I forgot to mention her man's family member, is my other friends abusive ex boyfriend....so she had me do favors for her to mess up his life a little bit. And when it comes to men stealing stuff from a woman's kids, I'm going to help, period.) Once I did that favor for her, our friendship got a massive Crack in it. She's responded to me hours later, saying that it's always about me, I am never concerned with her, i don't know what she's going through (because the last few months she refused to talk to me about anything except doing her favors) and then she restricted my messages, and i blocked her because i didn't want her coming back a week or so later and complaining about her life after she refused to communicate with me about some things. Then the birthday was the last straw. So am I the A-hole for ending our friendship of nearly 20 years??