I haven't met my family members for a year now.

About a year ago my mother told me that in the previous 3 years there was only one time that my father was sober for 2 days straight. Which was a Christmas when I said that the biggest Christmas gift for me would be if all my family would be sober during the 3 days of Christmas. They agreed for the 24th 25th, but my father got drunk on the 26th.

My mother told me about a year ago that my father "is slowly healing" from alcoholism and that I should be just patient with him. As far as I know he didn't change much, and I honestly don't even care to even talk to him to see if he is alive or not.

(He had some kind of heart attack in his workplace about a year ago, while I was visting them. His collegues called me to tell my mom, who was sleeping. I went with her to the hospital hand-in-hand. My father survived all well, but I haven't talked with him ever since. He got drunk again the next day or so, so I decided that he is a clown and I don't talk with a clown.)

Besides this, I am a LDS/"mormon" and they are not. I don't drink alcohol and don't hook up, and I tried to invest in self-relience ever since early adulthood. My father tried to sabotage me from getting to a church university and moving to the US, and he caused a huge financial damage. I believe it was on purpose, whereas my mother tried to convince me it was a misunderstanding. But either way, he broke my trust and sabotaged my life plans that I worked and sacrificed for.

I also tried motivating him with positive motivation how amazing things can be experienced in life, and how beautiful life is, and to follow his passions instead of dwelling on past mistakes. Whenever I wanted to have a good time around them the last few times I visited them, they acted abusive towards my other family members, especially my nephew. (He was also abused by my sister, his mother, so much so that she lost custody and now my mother is his custodian.) The last few times whenever I told them to just live in peace and respect each other's boundaries, they acted like I was "arrogantly lecturing them" and that I was "the black sheep of the family" for not drinking alcohol, not shouting at children, not giving food to children that they are allergic to, and not pushing a child's head to the wall for "misbehaving". That I am "brainwashed by Western culture and the mormons".

So I decided to cut them out. I am sad, as I would like to be a "cool uncle" for my nephews and nieces, but I don't want to compromise my life success and values. I believe that if someone shows up drunk in my presence, than that person has no right to my presence and it is a disrespect against me as a person. They act like they don't see it as a big deal, as the country is the number one most alcoholic country on Earth, and the region where they live is possibly the most alcoholic region of the country.

Am I bad for not talking to them?