I don’t even have a good reason to be hateful towards him. After hearing their disgusting dating life that I (23F)didn’t ask for, I said to her(26F) that I don’t want to meet this guy(25M), like I just physically can’t. He just turned my best friend to someone I don’t recognize. Maybe that’s not fully his fault or intention, maybe she just decided to change her personality after meeting him, maybe it’s both, I just can’t recognize the woman I used to know for so long.

At first I thought that I was just jealous because I’m single but I don’t even want a partner at the moment so I don’t think that’s the case. She sometimes acts like this random dude is handed to him on a silver platter and she acts as if she should be grateful for dating someone like him.

He doesn’t fit my best friend’s “type”, he is friends with his exes, lets them be clingy, he has a promiscuous past but apparently he is a muslim and they can’t have sex in ramadan but literally on any other time of the year its okay (my mother is also a muslim, its haram to have sex before marriage and I thought islam was a lot more strict with it’s rules, that’s why I found this weird, its not like Im islamophobic or anything its just that as a muslim guy I feel like he must know adultery before marriage is haram) also he doesn’t like to use protection??

Like all of these are so weird but they are all stuff I heard from her only so maybe Im not seeing the full picture. The worst part is my friend saying “Yeah he will probably break up with me because Im gonna change countries for my masters, and he doesn’t seem like the person that can do long distance” so I asked “Did you have this conversation with him?” She said “No but he tried to make me stay so that our relationship lasts more, but I don’t think I want to attend to his uni.” Huh?? You guys didn’t even have a proper conversation about this, on top of that he tried to manipulate you into transferring to HIS college for your masters?? Grown ass man. But no she acts like Im schizophrenic so I feel like a control freak for thinking like this. She makes me feel so stupid for caring for her wellbeing.

Maybe I am just paranoid because I never had a friend that was this open about their relationship to me, but I don’t know. Maybe I payed this much attention because she is obviously so open to me about her relationship since we are best friends. I think that guy is screwing her over but I don’t have any solid evidence. Am I the asshole for thinking like this?