Background: my husband(30M) and I (29F) swing with this couple (32M/31F) twice in the past 6 months. We were friends prior to swinging. We would hangout pretty regularly but I feel like she wasn’t really genuine. During these hangouts we would be pretty respectful towards each other because the other friends in the group don’t know what happened between us.

This past weekend I was out of town. My husband went to a mutual friend’s birthday party and so were the couple. The gf ended up texted me a couple pictures of my husband and my dog and I responded aw so cute. She then sent me a Snapchat (she doesn’t use Snapchat ever btw and also told she doesn’t use it) of my husband singing karaoke and captioned “he is on one tonight. But he said you are magical” I thought it was random but also weird behavior out of her. Towards the end of then night they took my husband home as he was pretty drunk to drive. My husband ended up inviting them in as they were still trying to go out to other bars. A friend texted me to let me know as shes the only person that knows about the swinging. She also told me that the gf texted her and said that the boys tricked her into going back to my place. My curious mind tuned in the puppy cam at our place with only sound available. Overheard that she was saying to my husband and her bf that I was yelling at her this one time when explaining the rules of a board game and my husband said that’s just how I am to brush it off the conversation. Nothing happened that night and I trusted my husband wouldn’t do anything to harm me.

I do feel things were calculated by her. She started to dress and act like me after we hooked up. I feel hurt from my husband and her. I wouldn’t say I feel jealous or threaten. I don’t like people being shady around me. She invites us to hangout all the time but I just don’t feel comfortable around her now. I am bummed to miss out on parties and to hangout with other friends. AITAH to distance myself or keep my husband away from her?