So me (24f) and my husband (max 25m) have been together for 4 years dating 1 and married 3 we have 2 kids Katie and Jacob. They are both 2. So I was going out with some friends and I was on my way but I forgot my card so I turned back to get it when I got in I went to my room and saw my husband in one of my dresses and a pair of my heels I was shocked and slammed the door and left (I know I probably shouldn't have done that but I was a bit confused and flustered) I went out with my friends and tried to distract myself but I couldn't stop seeing him in my dess. When I finally got home max was sat in the living room and he looked like he had been crying. I didn't know what to do so we kind of sat there in silence for a bit but after that he finally broke down and told me that he feels like he was ment to be a woman and his new name was jess. I sat there and listened to him but I said "if you are a woman then I'm sorry but I will want a divorce". He started crying and tried beginning me but I got up and spent the night at my parents and haven't spoken to him since AITAH?