So yeah, the title is a bit of a mess, but so is my (soon to be ex-) husband!!!

We’ve been married for 6 years, and while things havent always been perfect, I never expected the crap that happened over the past few months. The final straw happened last weekend, and I still can't fully process it, so here I am.

It started with an argument about something small—like, truly minor. Next thing I know, he storms into the kitchen and proceeds to literally smash every dish we own. Plates, bowls, glasses—gone. Just a pile of ceramic and glass on the floor like some dramatic movie scene. I was shocked and scared, honestly. I didn't even engage, just left the room.

That night, instead of apologizing or even calming down, he left the house without telling me where he was going. Hours later, I find out (from a mutual friend, no less) that he was out on what he literally referred to as a “reset date” with another woman. Not a friend. A date. With a woman he met a few weeks ago at some work thing.

He got absolutely plastered. Came stumbling back into our house around 2 a.m., reeking of alcohol and perfume, and then—because the universe apparently wanted one more punch to the gut—he threw up all over our fabric couch. It soaked in. It’s unsalvageable. I had just paid to get it professionally cleaned after a previous wine spill, so it’s basically ruined for good now.

That was it for me. I told him I was done, and I’ve since filed for divorce. He’s now telling mutual friends I’m being “dramatic” and “cold” and that I’m "throwing away years of marriage over one bad night."

I don’t know. I was committed to our marriage, but I feel like that night just ripped away the last shred of respect I had for him. But now I’m getting messages from people saying I’m overreacting and that I should’ve given him a chance to make amends.

AITAH?