My (26M) GF (26F), moved in with me two years ago, just completed two years yesterday in fact. We have been together a total of 4 years and overall, the relationship has been good, she's usually a lovely partner and we spend a lot of quality time together, share a lot of interests and just in general always got along very well, not my words alone. But she has this thing where she has to be independent all the time and she's freaking out... because get this "there isn't anything for her to solve", i make more money than she does, do the vast majority of the house chores and maintenance work, cook, and whatever else needs doing (it's not even like she has time for these things, she's overworked and often late and i WFH).

Yes, she's mad at me because i take care of everything too well, we have a leak? gone before she even noticed, lightbulb stopped working? changed before you know it, have to pay the bills today? done before you even wake up.

Yesterday at when she came home from work we were celebrating two years living together, i had made a special dinner, everything was fine, until she asked me about an issue she had with the car in the morning, she had to uber to work today and asked me what i thought it was, i told her i had already fixed it and what it was, she looked like she was about to have a stroke, seriously, she went red with rage and just started screaming at me and i did what i always do in these situations (it's not a pattern with her or anything like that, this is only the second time it has happened, but i dealt with this a lot more from my family), i just sat there with a blank expression drinking my wine as she continued to go off, waiting for her to be done and actually talk, then my reaction to it became an issue and she started screaming even more.

Eventually she stopped and i asked if she was calm enough to talk, she screamed NO, so i just said something along the lines of "Ok, when you are, i'll be waiting." and just went about my night, did the dishes, cleaned up the mess i had made for our date, went to my office and played some games until i felt sleepy enough to go to bed. We're working now and still hasn't talked to me today. Left as soon as she woke up, no breakfast, no "hi" or "morning", just got up got dressed and left. AITAH?

EDIT: car is mine, she uses it for work because i generally don't need it.