Context: to start everyone brought up in this post is two of my ex-bestfriends (Star and Queen for their privacy), my boyfriend (Blue), and me.

Background Information: Me and Blue have been together almost two months and we had talked only a few weeks, while me and Star were friends 1 month before I met Blue, and Star and him never really got along since they met, which was okay until it wasn’t. Additionally, Star has her own boyfriend of over a year and they have quite strict rules when it comes to friendships, such as she really couldn’t hang out with me unless they were on the phone the entire time. I was okay with this, but when I started dating Blue it was awkward when Star came over and I was on the phone with him (we had just got together and we are long distance), she was also on the phone with her boyfriend. After me and and her had got into some activities involving gardening🍃, she had kept asking me to mute while I was talking to my boyfriend, I did with the assurance in my mind that it was just her private life and didn’t need my boyfriend to hear, but instead it was her talking about how weird my boyfriend is and how he was being rude and ignorant (he was simply annoyed by them openly flirting and talking about their sex life, when he had asked her to stop multiple times). Then Blue got a little upset at Star, and hung up because he said he didn’t want to waste our night starting arguments with my friends. After that night they were never a fan of one another, and always avoided contact, he stopped calling me when she came over and me and her hung out less.

Okay, so I am not proud of this decision whatsoever and my boyfriend is now aware of this and knows the full honest truth. One day, Blue was at school, and Star had texted me telling me that she wanted to come over since we never really hung out anymore because she was always with her boyfriend. I replied and said that I would ask Blue, and she told me he would say no, and that I shouldn’t have to ask permission to have friends over (it isn’t permission it’s me telling him what I am doing?), so I said okay, because me and Blue were fighting and I didn’t want to aggravate him more. When she got here I did her makeup, nails, hair, and then gave her some old clothes I didn’t want, she left about two hours later.

This was a Friday and two days later, on Sunday, me and Star get into an argument because her cousin had sent me a TikTok telling me to dump my boyfriend and how bad he is for me and all of this other irritating shit. Since I don’t know Star’s cousin personally, I texted Star simply asking her why her cousin would know anything about my relationship and why should would have any kind of bad impression? To that Star had responded that Blue is manipulating me, gaslighting me, using me, and only wants sexual relations with me nothing more (He doesn’t even want to do anything related to sexual interaction because she said this, we hung out and the most we did was a kiss). She told her cousin he was going to r*** me and harass me if I left him and that I was so desperate and trapped. At this point, I started screen sharing with Blue and switched to messaging so she wouldn’t get the notification (yet we had talked about it many times before and she knew I was screen sharing), like I had thought she said something and asked if I was, which I replied with “ no why”. Apparently she had got the notification on snap when I was on her friendship profile, she then say I cheated on Blue, and flashed someone on Omegle (which my boyfriend said has been down for a long time), and that I even said I wanted to cheat and thought Blue was ugly and I was just needy and desperate for love. She even texted him and said, I was going to leave him soon so he might as well already do so.

Later when my boyfriend wakes up, he calls me as usual and I explain to him what happened. He decides to text Star’s boyfriend and bring it to his attention that she gardens🍃,sneaks out, and might even be cheating without his knowledge (she has never told me she cheated or him, but a mutual friend, Queen, had sent me and him a picture of her ex holding her waist while hanging out with her trashy cousin). Afterwards he says he knows she gardens, and doesn’t believe the rest at all. Then there is this entire conversation with Star’s boyfriend, and his sister texting me and Blue, trying to give us reasons to break up and leave each other, it went on for almost an hour of back and forth texting, to the point where I just blocked them all and told Blue too as well, and he did.

So fast forward to Easter morning, or 420 for the pot heads. I find out that on a private story Im not in Queen, and Star were talking about me and gardening in Queen’s car. Since I was feeling petty, I texted Queen and told her I would appreciate not to be posted on a story and not even be in it, especially not when she is promoting drugs and people intoxicated while driving, which she responds with “I did nothing to you, and I would appreciate if I can post without being blackmailed”. So I blocked her too and she is my gardener🍃, my boyfriend has been overwhelmed and overthinking about what they said but went through my phone and now has my passwords, to reassure him I have nothing to hide from him.

Overall though I just wanted some advice, and thought this story might entertain some people out on her, because I literally read Reddit post to put my boyfriend to bed while we are on FaceTime and I think it is the most adorable thing ever!

Advice: If you have a gut feeling someone is hurting you or the people around you, don’t let the walk all over you and do something about it, show them that you know what your worth.

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING IT TOOK ME FOREVER TO WRITE.