to start, i’m 17F and my boyfriend is 19M. i turn 18 later this year in september, and my boyfriend turned 19 in march. we started dating early in 2024, and back then i used to dress a little bit differently due to body image issues. to go into detail, it was usually jeans or sweatpants and sweaters in the winter, and shorts or sweatpants with t shirts in the summer. my boyfriend always told me that i looked great and i had nothing to worry about, but he never said anything about what i used to wear. this year, i’m graduating highschool and i decided to go on a school trip with my classmates to dominican. i signed up for this trip in april of 2024, and by june i decided that i was going to start working out so that when i went to dominican, i could wear things that i wanted to without feeling bad about myself. my boyfriend was in full support of this at the time, and even went to the gym with me most days. to preface, i don’t think i was ever overweight or anything, i was just a regular teenager going through body dysmorphia. i think i was about 140 lbs when i started, and by the time it was time to start shopping for my trip in january (the trip was in march), i was a little under 120lbs. i felt and still feel a lot more confident in myself now. when i started shopping, i got things that i wouldn’t normally wear. i got a whole bunch of crop tops, shorts, skirts, and bikinis. it was nothing that was too flashy or showy. the tops were tight and some of them did show a good amount of cleavage, but i really liked the way they looked on me. before i start the next part of the story, i just want to preface that there has never been any doubt of infidelity between my boyfriend and i. he has very minimal girl friends, and the few guy friends i have are dating my friends. i went on this trip with three other girls and stayed with them most of the time, like i told my boyfriend i would. not once before or during the trip did i think about talking to other guys. so, i went on the trip, called my boyfriend while i was packing, the night before and even while i was sat on the plane right before we took off. i was super excited for this trip, especially because of how confident i felt. i called my boyfriend from the room every morning, but sometimes not during the night because i would come back late. it was on the third day of the trip that i was on the phone with my boyfriend, and i showed him what i was wearing because my friends and i were going to go to the club on the resort. i was just wearing a skirt that was relatively short, but wasn’t showing anything and a low cut top. things were okay for a few minutes after that before he started a conversation about what i was wearing and how i looked good but he wanted me to change. i didn’t say anything at first, and i was obviously a little upset but i changed into a dress, and he didn’t like it either. i asked him what he wanted me to wear and he asked if i had any shorts or pants, and this turned into a thing for a few minutes where we went kind of back and forth. i didn’t want to wear shorts or much less pants to the club when i was on vacation, and i also had been wearing shorts under my skirt and dress as to not flash anything. we ended up hanging up after that, and it kind of made me feel off the whole night. i understand where he was coming from, but i also told him that i was wearing all this because i felt good in it, and if i was wearing it for anyone, it wouldn’t be anyone apart from him. i felt like i didn’t trust him. after i came back from the trip, we had a long talk at my house and he said that he was happy that i felt good with myself, but he preferred the clothes i used to wear rather than the ones i did now, and he said that although he would respect my choices, he didn’t want to keep dating me if i was going to dress like a ‘whore.’ i got really upset at that comment and told him i needed to think. my boyfriend has never in the time that i’ve known him called me or any other girl that, unless it was when i wasn’t around. i know i dress differently now, but i feel like i dress a little more modestly than some of the other girls i know. i’m a private person normally, but my friends have been in relationships for longer than i have and they wore the same things as me on vacation, and their boyfriends just told them they looked amazing and to have fun. they told me to break up with him because i wasn’t even dressing too crazy, and that it was very disrespectful to allude to me dressing like a whore. after taking what they said into a lot of consideration, i did break up with him, but i miss him a lot and i’m now feeling like maybe i did the wrong thing by breaking up with him. i don’t feel like i’m dressing like a whore though, and if i did ask to get back together, i wouldn’t want to change the way i dress because i feel a lot better about myself in what i wear now than what i did back then. AITAH?