My wife (27F) and I (29M) just had our first kid together a few months ago. Since then, she has not been back to work and we both decided that she will stay at home and take care of our kid due to child care costs.

I work 12 hour shifts and I work nights. 6p-6a. I feel as if my worries about her being a stay at home mom have come true. I came home from work this morning after having a terrible night at work and my wife immediately hands the kid off to me stating it’s my turn and she’s going back to sleep stating she only slept 7 hours….this is becoming the usual. I come home and she hands the kid off. I feed him, change him, spend time with him, etc until she wakes up. On an average day, I’m getting about 4 hours of sleep. Interrupted sleep I might add (people mowing, baby crying, dog needing let out).

Don’t get me wrong, I love spending time with my kid. But I feel like I’m working two jobs right now. If I confront her and say something along the lines of “I worked last night and I’m just really tired” I get scolded that I don’t want to spend time with him and that she “knew I was going to be a bad dad”.

I just don’t know what to do. I am so mentally and physically exhausted.