So she bought a perfume, woody and disgustingly sweet perfume. The day tried it I told her it was unbearable but she got it anyway.

When does she wear it? Several occasions, including when we go out together. How much? Not a drop on the side of her neck, no, a whole spray of it!

Lately she's been picking on little things a lot, like leaving all the cooking to me because I told her Teflon pans can't be preheated empty or trying to find inaccuracies on things I'm discussing with other people. We had a friend of hers stay the weekend and she flat out asked me if I would have a problem with her friend eating with her hands, despite no one having eaten with their hands.

Am I an overreacting asshole or is she being passive aggressive with the perfume?

EDIT: I wouldn't wear anything that caused her discomfort and I expect reprocicity in that regard. I don't think it's too much to ask.