So for context, I've been friends with this girl for about two years now and we're both in our early teens. We go to the same school and we were pretty close when the event happened.

Early this year, I was having a sleepover with my best friend. My friend knew this, yet she texted me asking if she could vent to me. I said sure, because that's the right thing to do. It was fine, except it irked me that she knew I was hanging out with someone and still texted me. But I was okay with it because she is my friend and I want to help her.

Over the next two weeks, it continued like this. Most nights, she'd text me. She would tell me about how she felt really depressed and she was thinking about killing herself (which I knew she wouldn't). I'm completely unqualified to deal with any of this, and I really didn't know how to react. She told me not to tell any adults, and I didn't want to break her trust. So, I listened and tried to help her the best that I could, even though it totally overwhelmed me.

Her parents are getting divorced, and mine are too. But she would make comments like "you don't understand what it's like to have a broken family," or "I just want my family back, sorry you can't understand that." That really rubbed me the wrong way, because we were both going through the same thing, but she was the only one "allowed" to talk about it.

Honestly, it made me really uncomfortable. I was going through a pretty rough time myself, seasonal depression in full swing, but it felt wrong for me to talk about my feelings with her. Honestly, I began to get a bit annoyed with her when she would text me like that. I am not her therapist, I am a young teenager who can't deal with that right now. However, I don't want to be a bad friend and a terrible person. By telling her I'm not okay with what she's doing, that would be taking away her only form of comfort, so she says, and I can't do that to her. But I can't help but feel guilty for even thinking these thoughts of annoyance or grievance.

Things are better now. I've tried to open up the conversation before, telling her that it was a lot for me at the time, but she doesn't seem to realize it affected me too. I don't want to make her feel like I'm making this about me.

Now, four months later, it feels like there's still a strain in our friendship. It's been hard for me to open up to her about my struggles, and when I do it feels like she's trying to one up me. I don't want to be a shitty person, and I never told her how I felt and I always let her confide in me.

So, my question is, AITAH for feeling annoyed when my friend, in her darkest time, came to me to vent? She's not a burden to me, but it did put a weight on me I couldn't carry at that time. But I feel guilty for thinking like this. So, Reddit, AITAH?