I honestly don’t know how to feel right now. My ex reached out to me recently after 10 years of no contact. We dated way back in the day, and while things didn’t end horribly, we weren’t really in contact since. So when he messaged me, I figured maybe it was just a casual catch-up. Curiosity got the best of me, and I replied.

He told me he’s been with his current girlfriend for 7 years and they live together. But as we kept talking, he started sharing things I didn’t expect… and now I can’t get it out of my head.

He admitted he’s cheated on her. Not just once. Over the course of their relationship, he’s talked to and met up with other women behind her back. And most recently, he told me he’s been talking to a new girl for months. They met up, checked into a hotel, she kissed him and gave him a handjob. He told me this like it was nothing. Like I was just supposed to nod along and say “that’s life.”

He also said his girlfriend is mentally unstable. That she’s emotional, hard to deal with, and “not well.” It broke my heart. Not just because I’ve been cheated on before and know how it shatters you… but because I know how easy it is for women like her, women who are vulnerable to be manipulated and made to feel like they’re the problem.

And now I know. I know what’s happening behind her back. I didn’t ask for this. I didn’t go digging. But now I’m sitting with this horrible truth that she doesn’t even know. And I don’t know what to do with it.

I have no proof. Just his word. If I tried to tell her, would she even believe me? Would she just think I’m trying to ruin their relationship or stir up drama because I’m the “ex”? I haven’t been in their lives in a decade… what place do I even have?

But I can’t shake it. I feel sick. She doesn’t deserve this. And it kills me that I know, but I can’t do anything without making it worse.

So… AITAH for being this emotionally torn up about someone else’s relationship? For feeling this angry and heartbroken on behalf of a woman I don’t even know, but deeply relate to?