I am a black gay female. I am very introverted. At work, I really just go to do my job. I have 2 people that I chat with and even then, I don't talk about personal things. I don't typically talk about my sexual orientation, I actually never do. Not ashamed or hiding anything. It's not an important part of who I am. Anywhoo, I recently got engaged to my fiance and now everybody at work knows I am gay. That is the ONLY way people know btw.

So a few weeks ago, one coworker sought me out to ask me if I thought the black man she is dating, is gay. She came to my room to ask me this. We are not friends. The most we interact is "hi" and "bye". Maybe a sentence or two more here and there. So her coming to ask me this threw me way off.

I know she asked me specifically, because I am black and gay. As if those qualities make me more qualified to tell if a black man is gay. This just rubbed me the wrong way.

That's not all.

I got engaged in October. EVER SINCE one of my coworkers found out that I am gay, she has sought me out to tell me about her gay son and his engagement and most recently, marriage. We are also NOT FRIENDS. I have never asked her a personal question. She is an oversharer who I often try to avoid for this reason. I don't want to chat. Especially about personal lives. She came to my room today to show me wedding pictures and to recommend the photographer they used because "she works with same sex couples".

I have never expressed an interest in knowing about her gay son or his wedding. NEVER. I also never asked for recommendations on a photographer.

It is rubbing me the wrong way because I know these people are seeking me out and asking me these things or sharing this with me because of those qualities. My blackness and/or gayness.

Am I the asshole here for thinking they should leave me tf alone?!