My sister and her husband have 2 kids. 6 and 3. I’ve been around them since they were born.

My BIL’s sister has been MIA. I’d say she’s seen my nieces a total of 4 times over the last 6 years. Has NEVER been to a single birthday party for my niece's holiday event. When my sister gave birth? She never came to see the baby…. It’d be 9-12 months before she’d come around. Finally, for the record… I haven’t seen her in person since my sister got married… which was 10 years ago.

Okay, so we had a family get last weekend and she finally came over. I was pretty rude to her. I gave her two cordial smiles throughout the night, but I didn’t acknowledge her for the most part. I stood up from the table at one point and asked everyone what they wanted to drink and skipped her (it was obvious.) She asked me a question in front of the group and I brushed it off changing the topic completely. I hugged everyone before leaving and blatantly skipped her.

I should finally add that there’s nothing that prevented her from being present… at all. How are you not gonna show up to your own niece's birthday… EVER?