Wife and I have been married for 10 years, a couple of kids. For years I worked outside the home 50+ hours a week. Married into a situation where there was a lot of debt I didn’t know about, so I was working to pay that off.

My wife worked at the start of our marriage, but stopped when the kids came. For years, the responsibility was that I work and provide, she takes care of the home. I would help out when coming home.

I would come home everyday to a home was never clean, dinners never really cooked, and made to feel like I wasn’t doing enough and that she was too busy to get things done. Went to counseling and I made a commitment to be better.

Then about a year ago I got a job where I could work remote. I quickly discovered that my wife had been shoveling me off to work, get the kids to school and then go back to bed until the kids got home from school. All of her busy time was spent sleeping, then would complain about me not doing enough around the house when I would get home.