This is gonna be a long story so grab your popcorn ! So let me give you guys a backstory.

My(26F) boyfriends(45M) daughter(20F) has stayed with us in the past because she has a room here, but she ended up getting kicked out because her dad didn’t want her talking to this guy who treats her like shit and put his hands on her and she was continuing to do so, so he told her go back to her moms if she wasn’t going to listen to him. Plus, there would always be conflict between me and him because when she would be here, she wouldn’t clean up after herself, she would smoke and bring all the weed smell inside mind you at the time I have a newborn so that bothered me and she just wouldn’t help out around the house And he wouldn’t say anything about it. He’d always say that “I’m just always Trippin on her”

Fast forward to New Year’s, January 2025 she came back around to stay with us again after no conversation was had. She basically just started staying again and just never left and brought clothes back from her mom’s little by little.

So her dad told her if she were gonna stay here then he didn’t want her to be seeing that dude and if he found out that she did, she was gonna go back to her mom’s. Before any of this happened, we had a great relationship and we’re always laughing and we would hang out with each other and go out together sometimes too so one night we went out February 2nd, 2025 — me, her and her sister(21F) and when we got back home and she decides to say that that guy that her dad didn’t want her to be seeing had texted her, and he was wanting to see her.

Both me and her sister told her not to but in the end of it, she made her own decision to tell him to go ahead and come pick her up from the house. I told her not to, but at the end of the day she’s grown enough to make her own decisions And take accountability for her actions so I didn’t think anything of it, plus she said she was gonna be back in the morning before her dad woke up and for me not to tell her dad and so I didn’t because really I didn’t care like that & I didn’t think it was gonna be a big deal. Plus I’m not babysitting his grown ass children. Also, her phone got turned off because her dad wasn’t gonna pay it Because he was trying to tell her you can pay your phone. It’s only $25 a month and she said she didn’t have it supposedly so she left it off and me and her sister were at home the next day, She never came back all day long after she said she was gonna be back in the morning so toward the evening her sister started to get worried so she ended up telling her dad where she was, but her dad already had suspected that she was with that dude since early in the morning when he didn’t see her around.

So that evening after she told her dad where her sister was, obviously with that guy, she ends up calling her dad acting like nothing is going on, but he already knows so he starts talking shit to her going off on her telling her that she’s a liar and that she needs to come pick up her stuff and go back to her mom‘s because She’s not following his rules and this is his house. Well, then she starts blaming me and her sister for why she left saying that we told her to, hyped her up to go with him and we did it on purpose, blah blah blah and basically putting the blame on other people and crying on the phone when that was not true at all.

We did not push her out the door and we did not push her into that guy‘s car for her to leave. So then she called my phone and was trying to go off on me saying why did I tell her dad anything and I did that on purpose and I’m fucked up and all this stuff and hangs up on me so I tried to call her back and she doesn’t answer so I send her a text telling her you know I didn’t say anything but at the end of the day you’re not gonna call my phone and try to blame me for what you decided to do you’re grown and you need to take accountability for yourself and if you don’t like your dad in your business, then go live on your own and do your own thing. Simple. You’re 20 years old.

So after that, she doesn’t respond to me. she gets mad at her sister doesn’t talk to her for a little bit then gets over it, but then basically is telling her sister not to be talking to me either so her sister wasn’t necessarily not talking to me, but wasn’t really talking to me as much as she was before, but she ended up still talking to me like nothing changed. But the other sister that got caught with that boy on the other hand that’s mad at me blaming me for what she did decided to do, decides She’s not gonna talk to me anymore and was also not talking to her dad. She also says she’s not gonna talk to that guy anymore, “supposedly.”

Feb 14th 2025 — her mom calls my boyfriend to let him know that his daughter ran off with that boy again and this time he beat her up pretty bad, supposedly gave her a blackeye and some bruises on her back and sides. And telling him that his daughter told her mom that that guy tried to kill her with a charger, choking her with it. So her dad was mad went to go see her said she looked like she did get beat up and her mom told her to file a police report on that guy so she did and she was crying and everything. But she still ended up getting ready and going out that night which I thought was weird after everything she went through supposedly. I had also texted her to check on her and see how she was doing and she never responded to me so later on that night I had called her sister to see what she was doing and she talked to me for a little bit and said that she had to hang up the phone because her sister told her to, Basically because she wasn’t talking to me she didn’t want her sister to be on the phone with me either. Just being childish.

So whatever, I decided you know what I’m just gonna fall back and not even worry about anything and not kiss anyone’s ass because first of all I didn’t do anything for her to decide not to talk to me. Then I realize she starts talking to everyone except me so I’m just like what did I do to make you so mad at me but continue to talk to everyone else but me. So I was like that’s fine. You know, I’m gonna give her her space if she don’t wanna talk to me that’s OK, but when she decides to change her mind and wants to come back to talk to me, I want the same grace that I gave her and I don’t wanna see her, talk to her unless we actually sit down to have a conversation and she gives me an apology and I told her dad that as well.

So all of March, she been talking to everyone except me and I tried to explain to my boyfriend how I felt like he didn’t have my back and how I felt like he didn’t respect me and neither did she because it just felt like a big slap in the face when he would be talking to her on the phone like nothing happened and like she didn’t disrespect me and he told me to basically just get over it which I’m not that type of person especially when I feel like I’m being treated like shit to people that I’ve never done anything fucked up to.

She sent me one text on March 29th 2025, saying “what’s up let’s go out tonight” and I didn’t reply because I felt like you’re not gonna talk to me after this whole time for some BS and then just hit me with a text like that not even an apology not even trying to talk about the situation.

So fast forward to barely April 13th & 14th, my boyfriend shows up both days with her to the house with him unexpectedly doesn’t talk to me about it, Nothing just out the blue brings her over putting me in a very uncomfortable situation after I told him how I felt and how I felt like we needed to go about the situation so that way it didn’t get swept under the rug and she had an understanding of what she can’t do anymore if she’s gonna be around. But of course he doesn’t tell her anything she doesn’t tell me anything just tries to come around and act like nothing happened but I just decide I’m gonna ignore her to show her I’m not going to talk to her until she knows what she needs to do to make things right because I don’t care who you are. You’re not gonna treat me like that and expect for me to just be like “OK yeah whatever that’s fine.” And I didn’t tell her dad anything, but I know he could see it in my face and the way I was acting when she was around that I was not happy, especially with the fact that he’s not gonna tell me that he’s bringing her over or anything. And I still don’t even want to tell him anything because it just leads to an argument that doesn’t end and he doesn’t see my point of view.

Anyway, that’s what’s going on and I just need some advice on how I should go about this or what I should do. Please help me. :( Thank you for reading this long story.