Hey Reddit, I need to get this off my chest. I (36M) broke up with my girlfriend (34F) recently after a series of things I probably should’ve walked away from sooner—but I didn’t.

She lied. She cheated. She verbally tore me down more than once, and even said cruel things like wishing I’d never have kids. We had plans to move out of state together for a fresh start. I took that seriously—new job, packed up everything. The day of the move, she got wasted with her friend and never showed up. I still ended up moving and have been on my own since.

We rescheduled a flight later for her. It got cancelled due to weather. And instead of being understanding or even trying to connect with me during that time, she barely spoke to me.

Since I ended it, she’s said she’s glad she drank all the time, and that she threw verbal shots like nothing happened. So… I know I’m not the asshole here. I logically know that. But why do I still feel like I’m the one hurting more? Why do I miss the idea of what we could’ve had, even though the reality was nothing like it?

Has anyone else been through something like this?