Me (20) and my boyfriend (23) have almost been together for 2 years. Recently because of his car situation we haven’t been able to see each other a lot. We maybe seen each other 12ish times in the past 6-7 months. Me and my boyfriend have always had this thing where we’ll go through each others camera rolls to see what kind of pictures we took, have it be scenery or some memes or silly pictures we saved of each other. I want to make it clear I wasn’t purposely searching through his phone. 

When I was looking at his pictures that’s when I seen the video of the porn saved to his camera roll. I was very shocked because he isn’t the type to save those things but I guess I was wrong. The video looked like someone sent it to him, like it was taken from a phone so at first I thought he was cheating on me (I’ve been cheated on multiple times in the past from previous relationships). I did confront him about it, and I asked what it was. He told me it was a video he forgot to delete, from xvideos. He only saved it because he didn’t have “WiFi”. 

I really didn’t believe what he was saying so I asked him to give me his phone back. He didn’t give me his phone but he willfully went through all his messages, Xbox, discord, Instagram and snap chat. To my knowledge he isn’t cheating on me. After 5-7ish minutes I ended up breaking down horribly. I’m still embarrassed from it but he did comfort me, which is probably the only good thing out of all of this.

Fast forward to Tuesday. I told him how I felt about what I saw. I told him I felt unattractive, unsatisfying and boring to him. I told him I don’t understand why he had to save that video to his camera roll. That’s when he shifted the blame on me, telling me I make him seem untrustworthy, and it’s my fault because I “went through his phone”. We ended up not saying kind things to each other, but in the end it was me apologizing. When I asked if he was going to apologize, he told me he would only apologize for calling me names. I just told him I didn’t want the apology anymore. AITAH for what I found?

Tl;dr I found porn on my boyfriend’s phone. He shifted the blame onto me, and it made it seem like it was my fault I found it. AITAH?