So I 42f have been married to my 41m husband for over a decade. My FIL seemed to be nice enough. Side note my husband and I went to the same grade school and were friends, however in HS we grew apart and weren't friends or anything but I have know his family for a long time as we grew up in the same town as well. When we first started dating his father who we will call Steve told me a story that I didn't feel was right at the time as it really has NOTHING to do with me but about his other son. It was about there wedding and his horrible feelings toward his other sons wife. Now what had happened at the wedding was mearly a miscommunication between parties, but at the time I had not seen my husbands younger brother in years nor had met his wife. The short version is it had to do with the wedding and my now BIL and SIL child being at the wedding. She was like 1-2 at the time. But this one event has outlined my husbands family. So after telling me this story yes, it clouded my judgement of my now SIL. Me and my husband have been married over a decade at this point and as of today the "wedding story" still is a thing with my FIL. That back story leads us to about 5 years ago when I was fed up hearing about it. He HATES my SIL and honestly she's a great wife and mother to my nieces and nephew. So 5 years ago my husband and I had a sit down with my FIL about somethings that bothered me about how he was starting to treat me and my husband. How he never seemed proud of my husbands accomplishments yet always praised my BIL for basicly breathing and I was tired of it. I then said and btw can we please stop talking about the wedding. I am tired of hearing about how you feel wronged about something so stupid and I wasn't even there so I don't care. It's ruining your relationship with pretty much everyone. He then said no bc he was wronged, whatever the heck that means. I said you really should be nicer to SIL and he then proceeded to say and I quote, " If she died it be the best thing to happen." To which I quickly and harshly replied you would want your grandkids to not have a mother and your son to lose his wife. He said yes, he could to better and the kids would be better off. I told him a few choice words and left. I have never told anyone this bc I don't think I can. So I have held on to this bc at the time things were weird but I didn't think anything good would come of this. Now my FIL and MIL are divorced and he has a new life but told my husband he would still come see him when he was in town as he loves about 3 hours away and he still has ppl down where we live that he sees. Well that was a lie and I texted my FIL and said probably in a tone bc that's what I do, that I thought it was crappy that I knew for a fact he has been in town several times and couldn't stop by for ten minutes and say hello. Oh I should preface that I sent that text after getting out of a mental hospital that I stayed in for 3 weeks and I was working on confronting ppl who I just had problems with but my mental health is for another post. So he texted my husband, said to pretty much control his wife and that he would be in town the following week and we would have dinner. So my husband and my FIL talked about how he never came to see him and I thought it was squashed, but boy was I wrong. He came over that following week and all seemed to be ok at first, he then leaned over and in the most horrible tone said, oh and I didn't like the text you sent me and started to lay into me. I said I was also tired of hearing about the wedding that is now 14 years old and for him to get over it already. NO ONE cares about his feeling wronged.. So I then got up from my chair said I have nothing to say to you, don't come back to my house you POS bc your a Sh*t father and person in general. He then said do I have the mental capacity to have any kind of conversation? He then got up, drew his arm back and was about to punch me when my husband stood up and got in-between us and pushed him back. Meanwhile and I still yelling about him calling him things and pretty much making fun of his new gf who well, looks like a linebacker from the like the 70's Jets. NOT an upgrade from my MIL. So I told him not to leave my husband told him to leave and as he did he pointed his finger at me and again telling my husband to control me. UMMM no one tells me what to do. I am a strong woman so yea. So the next day or maybe that night, my FIL texted my husband and said somethings but then proceeded to say oh and tell that wife of yours no one wants to hear about her mental illness or her SA anymore. ONE I don't talk about my SA bc well your not my Dr and I don't like reliving it and I do talk about my mental illness bc I think it's a topic we should be talking about. So needless to say my husband blocked him and my FIL blocked me..so sad LOL. So now we are no contact with my FIL and honestly it's been great. He was so toxic and no one saw it until the very end. My BIL ad SIL still have a little contact with him bc of the kids but I wish they didn't bc of what he thinks of my SIL and what he said years ago. So yea that's my story.