I want to start this by saying this is so stupid but I feel bad, so I wanted to post. So I (23f) am part of a friend group of 4 guys and 3 girls including myself. We usually all hangout biweekly, but us girls get together more often.

I am really into showertok/hygiene. I grew up in some not so great circumstances, so it’s been really important to me to smell good and be clean. Blair (fake name) is the girl this post is about. She is a very outspoken, sassy, and fun loving person. We are pretty opposite people if I’m being honest. She’s more into sports and gives off a “tomboy” vibe. I am pretty feminine, and tend to be more quiet. She has the habit of commenting on my hygiene habits, basically anytime she sees them. Kaci, the other girl in our group Usually shuts her down when she makes these comments. But it doesn’t really bother me either way.

Which brings us to last weekend. We were all at a bar when one of the guys in our group said that I smelled good. All the other guys agreed, which led to a conversation about my hygiene routine. Blair made some comments about me “drenching myself in oil and perfume” but I just laughed it off. Saying It’s my worst nightmare to be thought of as unclean. After we left the girls went back to my apartment where Blair absolutely ripped into me about being a “pick me” and begging for attention. Saying the boys wanted someone they could relate to, not a “submissive blow up doll” and that I had “ preformative hygiene”. I wish I could say I let her have it, but I just started crying. Kaci on the other hand kicked her out of my apartment and said that none of us were friends with the boys to get with them. She left my apartment saying something about it being biological, and left the group chat.

The boys asked why she left, and Kaci wrote everything that happened back in the group chat. That’s when Tony said “she’s probably insecure because she stinks” (Tony and Blair had a one night stand about a year ago) I will say Kaci and I have noticed some less than ideal hygiene practices from Blair, and physical signs of poor hygiene when changing with her. But, I didn’t think anything of it at the time. (I do want to say Blair‘s family is pretty well off and she has the physical and financial ability to take proper care of herself)

But after everyone found out that she treated me badly, Kevin’s girlfriend who doesn’t hang out with us as much because she goes to a different campus. But is still in the gc, texted her saying she was cutting contact because shes toxic. Everyone else in the group followed suit.

Blair texted me today saying I was an asshole for being dramatic. And claiming that I always wanted her out of the group. I’m not even sure what I did, but I still feel bad she lost all her friends. AITAH?