I wouldnt be asking if it was just complaining about work in general because i do the same to her when i have a bad day but i get annoyed when she complains about the stuff she volunteers for like cheer, after school church stuff, coaching games (all stuff she volunteered for) to me. And whenever I tell her to not volunteer for it she tells me “Okay whatever, god forbid i vent about my day” it’s pissing me off, like do you want me to give you a trophy for volunteering and putting up w that shit after working an 8 hr day. She justifies it w the little extra money the school gives her but her salary is alright to begin with and it isnt needed.