One year ago I 25f, started dating my boyfriend Sam, 26m. At the time I was 5’9 215 lbs. Around Christmas time I decided to get back into working out. I’ve been going to the gym daily, and I’ve also been swimming and playing tennis. I used to work out a lot, and it’s been nice getting back to it.

I’m now 175 lbs and in the best shape of my life, at my ideal weight. Technically my bmi says I’m overweight, but I’ve got giant boobs and quads, so that’s where the extra weight comes in. I love the way I look, and I feel very confident. I get a lot of male attention for the way I look currently. Which is nice because it shows that my hard work is noticeable, but by no means do I entertain conversations with guys who flirt with me. I do shut that down quick.

I’ve also made several friends at the gym. Almost only men. It’s nice to have someone to lift with and play tennis with.

My boyfriend has been sulking lately. It makes him really upset when we go out in public and I get hit on or stared at. He’s made a lot of insecure comments about how he hopes I don’t leave him now that I’m in shape. I’ve told him that I’m attracted to him the way he is, or I wouldn’t have started dating him. I’ve suggested he come to the gym with me if it’ll make him feel better. He is absolutely welcome to join me in anything I do really.

He doesn’t like going to the gym, which is completely fair. But lately he has been trying to stop me from going, by suggesting we go do something else right before I’m about to leave for the gym. Like, today I had a planned tennis match with a friend. He stopped me at the door to let me know that he wants to get ice cream and I need to come with.

And for the record, I haven’t neglected spending time with him in favor of going to the gym or seeing friends. We are still spending the same amount of time together as we were when we first met, or probably more actually.

AITAH? I feel like he isn’t being fair to me, and I need a second opinion. He’s also just been super jealous about guys at my gym in general. I go to a powerlifting gym and he’s made insecure comments about other guys builds in comparison to his.