I’m going to keep this short, but the background that you need to know is our relationship can be pretty toxic. My boyfriend was sitting on the couch on the phone with his mom when he invited her to go on a hike with him the next day, he then looked at me and asked if I would like to join, and I said yes I was very excited about this. He then continue talking to his mom about her getting off work early to go on side hike, which I was confused about considering he knows I would not be able to leave early from my job. But I didn’t give to much mind because I just thought we would work it out. so when he got off the phone, I told him as a reminder I probably would not be able to get off early and she said OK we’ll figure it out. (He later claimed on his life that the next morning he asked me if I would be going and I told him no I wouldn’t be able to make it. I have no memory of ever saying this, but in case I did, I am including it.)

I end up going to work, thinking about the hike being very excited because of how nice it was outside and at 3:55 I texted him from work and said “what a great day for a hike!!” “ nice and warm with a cool breeze” five minutes later he text me and said “yes indeed I will be at my moms in about 25” I did not get off work until four and I had my scrubs on so I texted him and told him I didn’t have the proper clothes or anything and I thought we would bring my dog, and he responded saying he didn’t know I would want to bring my dog and that we could go somewhere else, and I was very confused by this and he said that the place that they were planning on going does not allow pets. I asked him why he drove 30 minutes one way just to meet up with his mom to drive another hour back out to the hiking spot they were going to because it was closer to our house we texted a bit more and he ended up telling me that he is going to dinner with his parents and couldn’t leave because he didn’t have his car and was riding with his mom so he doesn’t have a choice when he will get back, considering at this point it was 6:12 and the sun was starting to set. I was irritated because how were we all supposed to go on a hike when it was dark and I felt like I was missing something and in fact I was. I found out that they ended up meeting to go on this hike way before I even texted him about how nice it was outside and he will not say anything. I was excited to go on this hike with them since I haven’t seen his mom in a while and they completely ghosted me and went behind my back, I felt very betrayed and got upset. He said that I was in the wrong and that it was supposed to be for his mom and him anyways and that he asked his mom first and I was just an afterthought, so it didn’t matter what my opinion was even if they could rearrange the time they wouldn’t.