My fiancé and I have been struggling financially because of him and his get-rich-fast bad investments. He basically used all of our savings and maxed up all of our credit cards on a crypto project he said would make us rich. And to no one’s surprise, the project failed and we were left with nothing but huge debts. For years we worked our asses off to pay this off, but we barely made any progress on them as most of our payments go to interest.

I started to suffer physically and emotionally getting to the point of waking up feeling like a bus drove over me and having suicidal thoughts. I’ve dealt with depression before and I’ve always know how to get my self back up without medication, so I did everything in my power to fix my self. I filed a consumer proposal (Government Financial Services to help lower people’s debt when they can’t pay them back) and I started to ask for better pay at work. And I also started to get therapy for my mental health. Things started to go better for me, and I felt like I could finally breathe.

While this was going on my fiancé started experiencing medical issues. For the past 3 years he has been complaining of pains and discomforts that seemed to be normal but as time progressed the symptoms have intensified. Through this time I’ve always told him to get a family doctor and get tested. He would just not listen.

Then he wanted to put our money together because he was told that’s how couples should do their finances, which I don’t fully agree as I’ve experienced financial abuse before. He said he would be honest and clear and he wanted me to manage the finances as he saw I was being very good at managing my finances. So, he convinced me to do our finances together and put our money together and pay all our debts off together. But to my surprise, I barely had any power over the account as it’s under his name, and he would just give me a hard time when I wanted to look at it. So I just let it go and trusted he would then be on top of things. I trust him with my money because I know he won’t be spending it without telling me, he is the type of person who doesn’t like to lie and is honest. But his issue is, he doesn’t want to show the bad things and I know he didn’t give me full access to the account because he didn’t want me to see how after 4 years his debts have not lower one bit. I’ve told him before to also apply for a Consumer Proposal like I did, but he has been refusing to do so because then his credit would be affected.

To make matters worse, 3 weeks ago my work place shut down unexpectedly and I was out of a job without a warning. My fiancé told me we would be fine and he was going to work more to cover all our expenses.I started to take care of the house and looking for work. I finally found a job but won’t start until a week from today and paycheque won’t come in until I’ve worked 3 weeks of which I’ll be paid for 2.

During this time my fiancé started experiencing more pains and he finally decided to go to the doctor. He hasn’t been diagnosed but the doctor said is serious and they are going to do many test to figure out what exactly it is. In the mean time he has to take prescription medication to help him out.

Then two nights ago he dropped another bomb on me, his 25k credit card has gone 1k over limit because we’ve been using it to pay for home expenses like food for pets and repairs to the car, and we have to make a payment of 500 dollars. I got pissed because I believe he would be on top of things as he is not giving me full access to the account. So I finally asked him to give me the password to the account and I saw we only have 100 in the bank.

I got upset and told him all this years I’ve been telling him to go to the doctor and to file for a consumer proposal, and because he just wouldn’t listen we are fucked. He told me I shouldn’t be bringing this up right now because of his illness, and the stress could make it worse. I lost it, I told him he never wants to talk about it and yes it is the perfect time because we have no money and bills coming in. I told him I’m not going to do food or groceries delivery work because I hate it, I’ve sacrificed so much of me because of this debts and I’m done sacrificing. I told him he has to call the bank and work something out with them about payment.

I feel bad for getting this mad because he too is been dealing with a lot of stress and he has also been dealing with a lot due to this illness. But at the same time I’m mad he is the reason why we are berried in debts, and I’m pissed he didn’t listen to me when I told him to go to a doctor years ago. And at the same time I blame my self because I also allowed this.

So ATASH for getting mad at my fiancé ?