—edited for context —- A lot of comments are coming for me at “being drunk and passing out” so I wanted to clarify. When say I had 2 drinks, I mean I had a free glass of wine at the hotel at 4pm when we checked in, and at dinner I nursed a cocktail that was mostly club soda through my whole meal. It made my cheeks feel warm and I smiled bigger, but I assure you, I wasn’t drunk. If I hadn’t said it was possible that I may have not slept it off in that time, I’d have to defend that too so it is what it is 😂

Also the nap was together. I left things out the NSFW stuff that happened before we fell asleep together.. that was important context looking back, as it probably contributed to the tiredness lol. We did have an alarm set as well. He woke up before the alarm and turned it off. When I asked him how hard he tried to wake me, he said he stroked my cheek with the back of his finger and said “it’s time to go.. are you coming?” He said I mumbled something that he didn’t understand, so didn’t try again and he left quietly. And lastly why does Reddit always jump to divorce 😂 I’m not leaving my husband because he thinks it’s dumb for me to be mad at him. I’ll read more comments and try to reply when I’m not driving. I appreciate the comments and criticisms too.
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My husband (42m), and I (also 42m), live in central Maine. We don’t get out much. We both work upwards of 50 hours a week and we rarely get to spend time together. Maybe one day off together every few weeks… A couple months ago, he saw that Kylie Minogue was going to be in Boston in April. Admittedly, concerts aren’t my thing. I have wicked crowd anxiety and I get very overstimulated. I do usually end up having fun but the build up to it is stressful. He’s been wanting to see Kylie Minogue in concert for years though, so when he asked if it was something I’d be down to do, I put all that aside and said yes! But then to help myself out, I suggested that we take the week off together and make a vacation out of it, and go book a cabin somewhere that work can’t reach us. He agreed and we were both happy. We have a 10 year old Doberman who is the actual queen of our house, so we had to make sure the lady was well cared for. We reserved her an overnight stay at her favorite pet resort in Boston for the night of the concert, and booked a room for ourselves in a hotel close to the concert venue. The plan was to go to the concert, spend the night, pick up the girl in the morning, and then go spend the week in a cabin, do some hiking with the dog, shopping and finally spend time together. Great!

I wake up at 4am every day for work, so on my days off, it’s hard for me sleep in. The day of the trip, I woke up at 5am and started packing the car, getting ready to go. We left early enough to go do some outlet shopping before hitting the city. We made it to Boston, dropped her highness off at the pet resort and checked into our hotel. We went to dinner and I had 2 drinks. I haven’t had a drop of alcohol in 9 months, so those two drinks really hit. I wasn’t drunk, but after being up since 5 and driving all that way, they made me tired. I decided to take a short nap since we had roughly 90 min before we had to leave. I also did buy an energy drink to slam on the way to the concert. In my tired and slightly buzzed state, I fully admit that I did say to my husband “ugh, I shouldn’t have had those drinks, this concert is going to be harder than I thought. I am so tired now.” He said “why don’t you just stay here? You don’t really like concerts anyway” to which I replied “no, we already spent the money, I’ll be fine I just need a nap” and I fell right asleep. The very next thing I remember is looking at the time and seeing 8:20. Concert started at 7:30 so I shot out of bed and yelled for my husband thinking he was in the bathroom. No reply. Lights off, door open. I look at Life360 and he’s been at the venue for 45 minutes! He had to have walked out the moment I fell asleep. I texted “you left without me!? Seriously!?” He replied saying that I was asleep claiming I said I didn’t want to go, referring to the conversation we’d had before my nap, when I made it clear that I fully intended on going. He left the concert, mostly because I started packing, to head back to Maine. I felt like I had slept off those 2 drinks and was ready to get out of here. He got back to the hotel and we started arguing. He spent the whole time gaslighting me, and justifying leaving me behind. At first he said he tried to wake me up and I wouldn’t budge. I’m a notoriously light sleeper, and judging by the fact that I woke up on my own when I heard someone in the hallway, I didn’t believe that he tried very hard. He admitted he wasn’t very forceful, and that he left quietly after I didn’t get right up. Then he claimed it was out of kindness because he could see how exhausted I was. Then it was my fault for taking a nap to begin with. And then it was my fault for even agreeing to go to the concert months ago, knowing they aren’t my thing. I said that the whole point was the spend time together! I committed to the concert, and he committed to the chill relaxing cabin I want to do after this. Relationships are compromise! For me, it was always only ever an opportunity for both of us to have fun together. I don’t know what he thought it was for. We argued until 1am when he finally went to sleep. I laid awake most of the night, bitterly listening to him snore and the absolute only reason I didn’t drive back to Maine is because I couldn’t get the dog from her resort. She deserves her fun anyways, and I more than likely hadn’t actually slept the alcohol off and probably shouldn’t have driven anyway.. so it’s for the best. Now it’s the next day and we’re not talking. I am dumbfounded that he thought it was okay to leave me behind after we spent all that money and made the plans together. He thinks I’m ridiculous for even being mad about it. Check out is in 2 hours. Am I the asshole for wanting to just pick up the dog and go home instead of spending the rest of my vacation with him?