I (30f) work a corporate job in an office building, although most days we all work from home. However, every couple weeks my coworkers & I spend a week in office. I LOVE my coworkers. I've never had a job where I vibed with so many people and it's been about 3 years since I started. One of my coworkers who started with me June (36f) , is a very proud mother. She has 5 kids & her life revolves around caring for them. Games, family trips, the works. She had her 1st child at 15 so she's never had the opportunity to experience adulthood without being a mom. I always joked with her about not knowing how we have the same 24 hrs because she's always doing a million a one things but still has time to work AND heavily participate in elective work activities (charities, party planning, etc). I called her Superwoman. A couple of weeks ago the topic of her kids came up again (a common topic with her) and suddenly she asked "Do you plan on having kids at some point?" I told her no, and joked about my dog being more than enough work for me, but then she asked why, because my "biological clock must be ticking," even though I'm freshly 30. I want to preface by saying we've hung out outside of work many times and have had serious conversations before where we've broken bread about past traumas in each other's lives so I had no issue being honest with her. I said "well I was badly sexually & physically abused as a kid so the idea of having a child weighs heavy on me" I didn't go into detail because one, it's the middle of a work day, and more importantly I didn't feel the need to. She then proceeds to tell me that the abuse I suffered should be the reason I should have kids. That because I was violated for years by people who should've been taking of me that somehow gives me all the skills and knowledge to be a good a mother. Her words were along the lines of "you'll know what not to do and how to properly love a baby." I immediately ended the conversation and stepped outside to cool off. I honestly don't have the words to describe how painful and offensive it was to have someone I considered a friend weaponize my trauma to gaslight me into wanting kids. The next day she came into office smiling and waving like nothing happened. I was still very upset. I had literally cried myself to sleep the night prior. I just gave her a half ass tired wave but a few hours I overheard her telling another coworker she was going out to her car to smoke some weed. She's always been a toker and tbh most people at work smoke too, but I was so mad I anonymously called security to the parking lot & they found her sitting in her car, vape in hand. I remember seeing how scared she looked when she was called into our department head's office. That was the last time I saw, I didn't find out until days later she was fired. I didn't think she'd be fired, maybe written up at the most because like I said most people here knowingly do it.... it's always been an open secret. Am I the asshole?