So I (25f) and my mom (46f) recently got into an argument about a thing happened few months back. So some back story my maternal uncle S(32m) has a weird habit of going through our fridge and pantry to the least. Yeah you read that right. So it’s a very normal thing that you don’t touch anyone’s fridge, food, belongings without their permission. In Asian culture it’s very common to respect this no matter how close you are. We all are bought up like this, as I thought. I was the youngest niece in my maternal grandparent’s family, so usually my arguments were ignored.

Wherever S visits our house the first thing he does is go to the Kitchen and start opening our fridge and pantry and every box in his sight that can have something tasty. My mother always pointed it out as he’s our youngest brother so he’s a kid, (yeah old enough to have one). She would give him anything that I have brought for us, or made something. Sometimes he went to an extent that he will take my food from my hand and will say “what are you gonna do by eating it give to me.” And I would just give to him and just go to my room. Sometimes when I don’t come out of room when he visits he will enter my room just to say “you have nothing to do”. And yes he has a habit of “playfully” hitting people.

So yeah I hate interacting with him. Now to the actual matter- in Sep/Oct I went to the market and bought a small gift for my mom it was a cake she used to love as a kid, when her family was not able to afford actual cake, it was like a small pastry and in my early years she used to enjoy it with me as a nostalgic memory. But after few years it was rarely available. So this day I went to the market to get some groceries when I saw that cake and I brought it for my mom, I thought we will enjoy it together and my mom will be so happy.

But due to her busy schedule, she couldn’t eat it for 2 days (it was non perishable for few months) which I know because my mom she is the most hard working and self made woman. And still grounded and sweetest person in the world. So I told her couple of times ok eat it whenever you get time. S visited us the next day. He went with the same routine I could least care, then he took the cake and asked what is this and my mom without a second hesitating told him to take it with him and eat it. The whole 6 pieces. I was devastated but I didn’t react. I didn’t know how to talk to my mom about it.

Fast forward to yesterday my mom’s second brother with his family visited yesterday, S live with them. Yesterday my second uncle’s daughter did the same thing ranting our whole kitchen and pantry. I knew who is her teacher. So after they went home. In a conversation I spilled about the incident and now my mom is upset with me, saying I am being unreasonable and there is nothing to be upset about it. Because she doesn’t even remember doing this or me bringing the gift for her. I told her I felt hurt no matter the cost or anything there are lot of things I don’t like eating but still I taste at least a bite because my mom has cooked it.

So aitah and what should I do?