Back in November I (32F) went to the emergency room because my blood pressure was very high. I ended up being there until 2 AM. (I later realized that it was my first panic attack). The next day was Sunday which is my normal day to spend with my boyfriend (29M). As we were driving around, I suggested a few places to go. I was still not feeling great from the night before and just wanted to either hang out at my house or sit at coffee shop or Panera Bread. My bf shot down all the ideas and continued to drive around without a plan. We finally pulled into a parking lot and he took out his phone and started looking at memes. I was feeling uncomfortable from the stress from my anxiety and wasn't comfortable sitting in the car. I got super frustrated that we were just sitting in a parking lot doing nothing after I suggested several ideas. I made some sort of snarky remark which then ended up turning into a huge fight where he ended up screaming at me and speeding down the road. (My blood pressure was probably through the roof again) I didn't understand why he was doing this when I was literally in the hospital the night before. I then said that I wanted to take an easy since I had a long night. He said that I should have communicated that earlier and he would have understood why I wanted to take it easy. I was confused that he wouldn't already know that I would most likely want to relax considering what happened. He said that he can't read my mind and that I shouldn't assume that he knows how I'm feeling. If he was in the hospital I would ask how he felt and expect him to want to relax after that. But apparently that's not how he thinks. Doesn't that make sense though?

I found out today that when he pulled into the parking lot and started looking at memes, he was stopping to think about what to do. He never communicated that or asked me for other suggestions. I told him that I was not aware that was what he was doing. He said I should have known that was what he was doing because we always do something on a Sunday besides sitting in a car doing nothing. He says that he did not need to tell me that. So I'm somehow supposed to know that, but he cant' assume that I may not feel well after being in the emergency room. Am I the asshole?