So about 6 years ago, I (25F) rented a room in a house, the owner of the house (35ish F) "Polly" also lived there. Over the 3 years I lived there I became good friends with her and her boyfriend "Drew" (37ish M). Drew was like a big brother to me, he'd been there for me for everything. Listening to all my work drama and boy drama, driving me home after my wisdom teeth removal, and helping me when I had sudden onset vertigo and could barely walk for a few weeks. Fast forward 2 years, I moved to my own place. I'm not really good at keeping in touch with people, but after a few months, Drew started messaging me. While living together he never texted at all unless he occasionally needed something, so it was a bit odd at first, but a after a while it became normal and it was nice to have a friend to talk to. He would say the odd thing that seemed vaguely flirty, but I brushed it off since tone can be misread in text, and again, he was like my big brother.

Fast forward about a year, Polly and Drew are getting married in a few months. I'm over at their place, Polly is away for the weekend and Drew and I are watching a movie. He starts getting closer and closer and winds up kissing me. I stop him right away and ask wtf was that, he just says "I don't know" and goes back to watching the movie. I didn't know what to do, I know it wasn't the smartest move but I'd had a few drinks so I just laid back on my end of the couch and watched the rest of the movie. I stayed the night (in my own room, again I had been drinking and it was late). He was gone by the time I woke up.

After that, things were different. We didn't talk as much and he pretended it didn't happen. I asked him about it after like a week, about why he did it and why is he avoiding me and I just got "it was nothing, I don't know, I'm not avoiding you I'm just busy". After a few months we pretty much just stopped talking. They got married, I still keep in touch with Polly from time to time. My new boyfriend becomes friendly with Drew so the 4 of us hung out a few times. Everything went back to normal, I just didn't talk to Drew like I used to.

Fast forward to now, Polly and Drew are now in the middle of a super messy divorce. Things are petty on both sides so I'm doing my best to stay neutral while Polly tells me all about it. A couple weeks later, Drew messages me again. We chat about this and that, he mentions his divorce, I mention that I just broke up with my boyfriend. He says maybe we should do a something together, I say sure, thinking like go play laser tag or board games or something, when he suggests going to this place like 12 hours away. I don't agree to that and he starts asking about somewhere closer, like 4 hours away (we live in the middle of nowhere, everything is at least an hour or 2 away). We make some super tentative plans to maybe get together at some point when our schedules align (yes I should've learned by now, but I've always been too trusting and try give everyone the benefit of the doubt). The next few days he's messaging me. A. Lot. I start getting this icky feeling and slowly stop responding. I meant to send a message basically saying this was making me uncomfortable, but life has been crazy (I just got a new job so I'm trying to help prepare my current job for being short staffed, picking up extra shifts, and packing and cleaning and trying to figure out where I'm going to live), so before I knew it, it had been over a month and I never opened his last message. I just noticed before writing this post (went to look up his age on Facebook) that he's now blocked me. I know I could've handled this better, but AITAH for just not messaging him at all?